What does brotherhood mean when it becomes violent?

In this deeply personal and unflinching episode of Cigar & A Crime, Dr. Dee examines the tragic death of Caleb Wilson, a Southern University student whose life was cut short following an alleged hazing ritual. What begins as a case investigation becomes something much bigger, a reckoning with fraternity culture, silence, tradition, and accountability.

We walk through who Caleb was beyond the headlines, the events leading up to his death, the criminal charges, and the lawsuits that followed. But this episode doesn’t stop at the facts.

Dr. Dee shares his own story, pledging in Spring 1998, experiencing isolation and abuse, and ultimately choosing peace over brutality. As a member of a historically Black fraternity and an HBCU graduate, he confronts a painful contradiction: how can we protest violence against Black bodies in public, while excusing it behind closed doors in the name of tradition?

This episode also places Caleb’s death within a broader national pattern of hazing, across Black Greek-letter organizations and predominantly white fraternities alike, highlighting why hazing is not a rite of passage, but a cultural failure.

This is not an attack on brotherhood or sisterhood.
It’s a call to protect it.

Because real brotherhood does not demand blood.
And love should never look like abuse.

🕯️ In memory of Caleb Wilson.
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In the early hours of July 8, 2022, University of Mississippi student Jimmie “Jay” Lee walked out of his apartment after receiving a message from someone he once trusted.

He never came home.

In this episode of Cigar & A Crime, Dr. Dee brings you inside the Lounge of Truth to honor Jay Lee, a 20-year-old social work major, performer, activist, and unapologetically proud young man whose light shined brightly in a place that still struggles with acceptance.

We trace Jay’s life before the headlines, his love for community, his faith-rooted family, his role as a safe space for other LGBTQ students, and then walk step by step through the investigation that followed his disappearance. From digital evidence and surveillance footage to a rare no-body prosecution, this case exposes how secrecy, fear, and silence can turn deadly.

This episode also confronts a larger truth: how members of the LGBTQ community often suffer in silence, how justice is delayed when voices are ignored, and why no story deserves to be buried-no- matter who the victim loved or how they lived.

Jay Lee’s name matters. His life mattered. And at Cigar & A Crime, no one gets left out.

Because in the Lounge of Truth…
The smoke never lies.

🔎 Listener Discretion Advised: This episode discusses violence and themes that may be distressing.

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A young woman did everything we tell people to do when they feel unsafe.
She documented the warning signs.
She reported the danger.
She asked for help.

But when 23-year-old nursing student Elizabeth Tamilore “Tami” Odunsi reached out for protection, the systems around her responded with delays, cancellations, and silence- until it was too late.

In this episode, Dr. Dee takes you inside the final days of a promising Texas Woman’s University student whose life was defined by hope, ambition, and a commitment to caring for others. Known online as “Tami Dollars,” she built a community of nursing students and young professionals who saw themselves in her journey. But behind her smile and study tips, she was living with fear that went unaddressed.

When police arrived at her Houston apartment for a welfare check, they walked into a scene no family should ever face. What happened inside that home- and what happened in the weeks leading up to it- reveals a devastating truth about ignored reports, lax screening procedures, and a housing system that placed her in harm’s way.

This episode explores:

• Tami’s journey from London to Houston
• The escalating warning signs she reported
• The roommate she never should have been matched with
• The failures that left her unprotected
• The legal aftermath and her family’s fight for accountability
• The deeper question: Why wasn’t her fear treated as enough?

Tami’s story isn’t just a case- it’s a call to reexamine how institutions respond when young women say, “I don’t feel safe.”

Light your cigar or take a quiet seat in the Lounge of Truth, and join us as we honor her life, confront the failures that allowed this tragedy, and remind the world why…

The Smoke Never Lies.