How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In this episode, Kimmy Seltzer, Allison Melody, and guest Ryan Bailey peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice with our expert guests, taking you from bad first impressions to moments of true transformation.

This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan Bailey discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you'll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey's own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps.

You'll hear:

• Why reality TV makes confidence both easier and more complicated—and what happens when the cameras shut off.

• The truth behind pop culture's influence on dating trends and the rise of influencer-first attitudes.

• Kimmy's four Cs of dating: how chemistry, compatibility, and compromise work alongside compelling attraction.

• Insights from the Golden Bachelor: friendships, disappointments, and what really goes on behind the scenes.

If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship? In Episode 417 of The Charisma Quotient, "Unlocking Love After Loss: Real Talk with Real Bachelors," you'll get a special look at Kimmy's new show Dating Real Talk where Kimmy and her co-host Allison Melody, and special guests Doug and Mark—two real-life bachelors sharing candid insights.

This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy Seltzer leads a lively discussion with co-host Allison Melody and two real-life bachelors, Doug Bass and Mark Primiano, about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of seeking commitment too soon, connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial "fun."

You'll hear:

• The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what's different, what's hard, and what's hopeful)

• Insights from watching and dissecting "The Golden Bachelor"—and what applies to your own dating life

• How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them)

• Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner

• The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship

If you're ready to unlock love, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you're still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you've been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong? In Episode 416 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Over 50: Why Aging Is Your Superpower with Golden Bachelor's Natascha Hardee," Kimmy dives deep into the powerful truth that aging isn't a decline, but a dynamic redesign and a superpower for living vibrantly..

In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardy, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself. You'll also hear funny behind-the-scenes moments from the first season of the Golden Bachelor. They explore why so many feel "past their prime" and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age.

You'll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live life large at any age.

You'll hear:

• Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene.

• Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it.

• The skill of dating: how it's learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever.

• Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife.

• Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act.

If you're ready to redefine sexy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? In Episode 414 of The Charisma Quotient, "Dating Real Talk: Where Reality TV Meets Real Life Love," Kimmy shares episode 1 of her new live show "Dating Real Talk - your destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles.

In this episode, Kimmy is joined by her friend and fellow podcaster Allison Melody. Kimmy kicks off the series by introducing her own transformation story: from a "frumpy" newly single mom in LA to finding her confidence (and style!) again after divorce. Allison and Kimmy dive into how themes from pop culture—specifically, The Golden Bachelor—mirror the real-world dating experiences of those "in their second act."

Together, they unpack why taking action trumps simply "doing the work" in dating, the importance of first impressions (and the surprising science of the red dress!), and how to balance authenticity with making a memorable entrance—especially on a first date. The hosts debate the do's and don'ts of sharing your personal story early on, discuss the concept of "trauma bonding," and offer practical advice for both men and women navigating modern dating norms.

You'll hear:

• The key first impression mistakes people make (and reality TV examples to avoid)

• How trauma bonding shows up in dating—and what true vulnerability looks like

• The difference between "pink flags" and "red flags," and how to spot them early

• How to break the cycle of overthinking and show up more playfully on dates

• Real talk on where to go for a first date and why "coffee isn't flirty"

If you're ready to get fun and flirty, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating the same patterns in your dating life? Do you find yourself pulling away when things get close, hiding parts of yourself, or confusing sexual attraction for true intimacy? What if old trauma or hidden shame is quietly running the show without you even realizing it? In Episode 413 of The Charisma Quotient, "Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame & Embracing Your Sensuality: Inteview with Veronica Clark," Kimmy explores some of the deepest—and most common—blocks people face on their journey to love and connection.

In this episode, Kimmy sits down with celebrated intimacy coach and somatic healing expert Veronica Clark. Together, they shed light on how past experiences of trauma, sexual shame, and people-pleasing behaviors can create invisible barriers, shaping the way you show up in dating and relationships.

Kimmy shares powerful stories from her own coaching practice, including clients who unconsciously sabotage connections, avoid vulnerability, or chase unavailable partners out of old, unhealed wounds. Veronica shares her remarkable personal journey, moving from trauma and self-judgment to becoming an advocate for embodied sensuality, authentic connection, and sexual healing.

You'll hear:

• How hidden trauma and shame silently sabotage your love life—often without your awareness.

• Why people-pleasing, caretaking, and chasing unavailable partners are signs of old wounds playing out.

• The difference between real sexual chemistry and seeking validation or a "fix" from others.

• The transformative power of somatic experiencing, mindfulness, and embodiment practices.

• Practical tips for reclaiming sexuality, building body confidence, and healing shame—in and out of relationships.

If you're ready to unlock your true capacity for intimacy, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Welcome back to one of our favorite segments on The Charisma Quotient: Where are They Now? In Episode 412 of The Charisma Quotient, "ICYMI: A Real Golden Bachelorette Finds Love: Where Are They Now with Leslie," Kimmy sits down with former client Leslie, a widow who embarked on a journey to find love in her second act. Leslie's incredible transformation and her ultimate love story will leave you feeling inspired and hopeful.

Leslie joined Kimmy's coed dating retreat program after attending Kimmy's workshop about flirting and sexy confidence. She was a relationship person with little dating experience and was finding herself feeling lost and not knowing how to put herself out there. The thought of flirting horrified her and she realized that she was closed off, guarded and in her head a lot. She also didn't realize that she was hiding in her clothes and didn't like bringing attention to herself.

YOU'LL HEAR:

• The key mindset shift that helped her go from outcome-focused and burnt out to open and present in her dating life.

• The importance of vulnerability, self-care, and expressing your needs in attracting meaningful connections.

• How Kimmy's style makeover and group retreat experience empowered Leslie to feel seen, sexy, and confident.

• Lessons on flirting, body language, and stepping into your femininity without feeling like you're "trying too hard."

• The turning point moment when Leslie stopped judging and allowed herself to date with curiosity—even giving men a chance she'd usually overlook.

Through undergoing a style makeover, learning dating and flirting skills, Leslie became more open and vulnerable, leading her to start dating men she wouldn't have considered before. Eventually, she met someone who brought happiness into her life and is in a beautiful relationship today!

Exciting announcement to join Kimmy in launching her livestream podcast Dating Real Talk premiering Sept 26 at 5:30pmPST/8:30pmEST. Go to YouTube Channel @kimmyseltzer or www.datingrealtalk.com to join live!

If you're ready to be the next Golden Bachelor success story, book a free call with Kimmy here: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Watch Kimmy's dating retreat and later dater success stories featured in Inside Edition https://www.insideedition.com/media/videos/these-women-prove-its-never-too-late-to-find-love-91871

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you ever wondered why dating feels like a high-stakes interview or why the pressure to "find the one" can be so exhausting? What if there were a way to approach dating that feels lighter, more playful, and actually attracts better connections? In Episode 411 of The Charisma Quotient, "What Is Quantum Dating? Why Everyone's Talking About It and How to Try It," Kimmy invites you to rethink everything you know about modern romance.

In this thought-provoking episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy Seltzer introduces us to "quantum dating"—an emerging dating philosophy that flips traditional expectations on their head. Drawing from her years of coaching experience and referencing a viral term, Kimmy explains how quantum dating is less about chasing commitment and more about curious exploration. She dives into real-life stories of clients who transformed their love lives by loosening the grip on outcomes and letting each interaction become a valuable, self-revealing experience.

Kimmy goes over how quantum dating helps reduce burnout, expand potential partners, and ultimately attracts more aligned, lasting relationships by focusing on connection rather than pressure. Kimmy also addresses common concerns, busts quantum dating myths, and shares her top five actionable tips to help you put this game-changing mindset into practice—whether you're casually dating, returning to the scene later in life, or seeking something real.

You'll hear:

• What "quantum dating" really means (and why it's not physics, but it is revolutionary).

• How rigid expectations and checklists create dating burnout and anxiety.

• The tangible benefits of quantum dating—like increased self-awareness, resilience, and a magnetic vibe.

• Kimmy's answers to common listener concerns: "Isn't this just casual dating?", "Isn't it wasting time?" and more.

• Five practical tips for dating with curiosity, intentionality, and presence (plus, why it'll help you attract the right people!).

If you're ready to experiment, have fun, and put this theory into practice, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd. You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com.

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Have you felt self-conscious or anxious on dates, unsure how to break free from the constant chatter of self-doubt and body image worries? What if emotional eating and your food habits weren't just about the food, but were actually acting as shields keeping real, intimate connections out of reach? In Episode 410 of The Charisma Quotient, "Emotional Eating & Dating Confidence: Interview with Amber Romaniuk" Kimmy sits down with emotional eating and body confidence expert Amber Romaniuk to unpack how emotional eating, body image struggles, and self-worth are entwined with your ability to show up powerfully in love and dating.

Amber bravely shares her own story—starting with childhood trauma and family patterns, leading to a battle with binge eating, bulimia, and a search for self-acceptance. Together, Kimmy and Amber explore why food and weight often become "love shields"—protecting you from rejection but also keeping you from intimacy, joy, and playfulness in relationships. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and practical strategies, they reveal what it really takes to break free from emotional eating cycles and step into self-love and magnetic confidence.

Kimmy and Amber don't shy away from tough questions about worth, fear, and vulnerability. Instead, they share helpful steps to spot your triggers, get honest about your habits, and move from victim mode to empowered action—both with food and with love.

You'll hear:

• How emotional eating and body image anxieties can sabotage your dating life—and what to do about it.

• The concept of "love shields"—how food and weight can become unconscious protection from vulnerability and intimacy.

• Why control, people-pleasing, and perfectionism often hide deeper wounds that affect relationships.

• Practical steps to identify emotional eating triggers and start healing from the inside out.

• How building self-worth creates real change in your relationships—and why dating is actually working on yourself.

• How control and rigidity creates masculine energy when dating.

If emotional eating or body image struggles have been holding you back in love, join Kimmy's virtual speed dating event on September 23rd and get unstuck in a fun, supportive environment. You'll get real-time feedback from hand-picked dates by Kimmy and meet new people. Sign up soon at www.stophatingdating.com.

Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣

Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣

Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/

Instagram: @kimmyseltzer

Twitter: @kimmyseltzer

Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers

Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com