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Steve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.

Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.

Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.”

They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy.

Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!

Time Stamps:
Show Intro
01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender
03:25 Meet Casey Allison
04:56 Casey's Story and Calling
08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help
11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth
14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters
17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support
22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality
25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters
29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community
33:41 Casey Groups and Programs
38:29 Closing Hope and Next Steps

Links for Casey:

Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.html

Support groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.html

Workshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.html

Digital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/

Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.html

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Steve sits down with Michael McBee for an inspirational conversation on hitting rock bottom, getting into recovery, finding God and helping his wife heal from betrayal trauma.

Raised in Ohio, Michael was an accomplished student and athlete, while struggling for years to find freedom from his sexual addiction. This led to a life marked by unhealthy sexual behaviors, overindulgence, and selfishness. After hitting rock bottom, Michael entered recovery through a national 12-Step program. He earned his certification as a Life Coach and Sex Addiction Life Coach through the Addictions Academy. Michael is an experienced leader of TSH Freedom Groups, leads men through the 90-Day Recovery Program, and leads our online 12-Step groups. He has been married to his wife, Sarah, since 2019.

Find a Men's Group at https://www.theresstillhope.org and ask for Michael!

Books Michael mentioned:

Fulfilling the Ultimate Quest - link

The Love Dare - link

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What happens when the very thing you're most ashamed of is also the thing keeping you from the love you most desperately need? In this episode, we sit down with Joshua Urrutia, MS, LPC-Associate and ASAT Candidate, to talk about one of the most painful paradoxes at the heart of sexual addiction: the war between deep shame and the longing to be truly known, seen and loved. At the root of that war, more often than not, is an attachment wound that has never been named, never been healed, and has been quietly running the show for years.

Joshua brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation. He shares what he witnessed during his time in ministry and mission work, and how those experiences led him to specialize in compulsive sexual behavior. This is an honest, grounded, and hope-filled conversation for anyone in recovery, anyone loving someone in recovery, or anyone who has ever felt too broken to be seen.

In this episode we cover:

• Joshua's personal journey and why he became a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist
• What intimacy disorder actually means and what it looks like in real life
• How early attachment wounds and attachment injuries lay the groundwork for compulsive sexual behavior later in life
• The painful cycle of shame, hiding, and compulsive behavior and why it is really a distorted scream for connection
• Why healing requires the opposite and what you can do to start healing

A note on attachment: You may hear the terms attachment theory and attachment injury in this conversation. Attachment theory, developed by psychiatrist John Bowlby, describes the deep human need for safe, reliable emotional bonds. First with caregivers, and later in adult relationships. When those bonds are broken, neglected, or never formed, an attachment injury occurs a: wound in the person's ability to trust, connect, and feel safe being truly known by another. For many men and women struggling with sexual addiction, compulsive behavior is not primarily about sex. It is about an unmet, often unconscious need for closeness and comfort that was rarely safely available. And for the betrayed spouse, the discovery of her partner's secret life is one of the most devastating attachment injuries an adult can experience: a rupture at the deepest level of relational trust.

About Joshua: Joshua Urrutia is a Licensed Professional Associate Counselor and ASAT Candidate (on his way to a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) with Intuitus Group in the Austin area in Texas. He holds a Master's in Counseling from Divine Mercy University, is EMDR trained.

🌐 Website: intuitus-group.com 📞 Phone: (512) 650-8018 📧 Email: joshua@intuitus-group.com

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