In this powerful and deeply moving episode, host Elizabeth Tiglao Guss sits down with lawyer and Hawaii resident Caroline Elliot to talk about letting go of the dream of motherhood, rebuilding life after grief, and choosing to live with intention. Caroline shares the emotional journey behind her decision to close the chapter on having children, leave her North Carolina home, and boldly move to Honolulu with her husband and their two dogs. This is a conversation about courage, healing, mental health, and the freedom of choosing a new path—even when it’s incredibly hard.

What You’ll Learn:

• What it’s like to grieve the dream of motherhood
• How Caroline and her husband made the decision to stop fertility treatments
• The emotional impact of living in a home built for children when children don’t come
• Why Caroline says moving to Hawaii was a form of reclaiming her life
• How therapy and conscious choice helped her heal and reconnect with her partner
• The importance of designing a life that reflects who you are now, not who you thought you’d be

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Elizabeth opens up about her lifelong struggle with self-worth and the deep belief that she’s not enough, a belief rooted in childhood and compounded by years of infertility. Through reflection and a simple meditation that repeats the words “you are enough,” she shares how she’s beginning to rewrite that story with compassion and tenderness. This episode is an invitation to anyone carrying silent grief, shame, or self-doubt to pause, breathe, and begin offering themselves the love they truly deserve.

What You’ll Hear:

• The surprising power of a meditation that repeats “you are enough”
• How childhood patterns and infertility shaped Elizabeth’s self-worth
• The quiet ways we judge and disconnect from our bodies
• A compassionate reframing of how we speak to ourselves
• A reminder that healing begins with grace, not criticism
• Encouragement to practice being, not just doing, and to believe you are worthy just as you are

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After the amazing response to our fireside chat around Mother’s Day, I'm doing a summer series, and I am so excited for this! The theme for this first Fireside Chat is "Life Pivots." I'm hosting this conversation on Friday, July 11th 5pm Pacific Time, with two special guests who've navigated this terrain. We'll discuss the identity challenges that come with childlessness and how to rebuild a life that feels meaningful when Plan A falls through…And I think it’s conversations like this that our community needs. Click on the link below to learn more and sign up for free! I hope you will join us live.

https://bychance.myflodesk.com/1-summerfiresidechat

In this episode, Elizabeth shares how tapping meditation (EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique) has helped her reconnect with herself and regulate her nervous system during difficult seasons of life, including infertility and burnout. She walks you through a gentle, guided tapping session specifically created for women who are childless not by choice, offering space to acknowledge grief, soften into healing, and begin rewriting your story with love and self-compassion.

What You’ll Hear:

• What tapping meditation (EFT) is and how it works
• Elizabeth’s personal journey with EFT and why it’s become a daily practice
• A guided tapping meditation for women who are childless not by choice
• How this practice supports emotional regulation and healing
• Gentle reminders that your story matters and you are not alone

Resources mentioned in this video:

https://www.thetappingsolution.com/

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Mentioned in this episode:

After the amazing response to our fireside chat around Mother’s Day, I'm doing a summer series, and I am so excited for this! The theme for this first Fireside Chat is "Life Pivots." I'm hosting this conversation on Friday, July 11th 5pm Pacific Time, with two special guests who've navigated this terrain. We'll discuss the identity challenges that come with childlessness and how to rebuild a life that feels meaningful when Plan A falls through…And I think it’s conversations like this that our community needs. Click on the link below to learn more and sign up for free! I hope you will join us live.

https://bychance.myflodesk.com/1-summerfiresidechat