Did we skip figuring out who we are because Gen-X was busy surviving? Lisa and Josh get real about when identity actually clicks, the difference between burnout and meaning, and why “helping everyone” can bury your own needs. Josh shares how dog training turned misfit energy into entrepreneurship, and Lisa talks boundaries, repair, and refilling your tank. We read a letter from “Searching” at 40, unpack why we ask kids about careers so early, and how to raise against-the-grain kids without crushing the spark. Then: Pop Culture Rewind to 1997 (Buffy, Titanic, Tamagotchis, chokers).

Chapters
0:00 Did Gen X Skip Selfhood
0:55 When Identity Starts To Click
2:40 Work, Reinvention, And Priorities
4:43 Finding Drive Through Dog Training
6:16 Misfit Energy And Entrepreneurship
7:15 Wanting To Help vs Self Focus
9:45 Burnout, Boundaries, And Refilling
12:15 Parenting With Empathy And Repair
15:05 Reinvention Or Doubling Down
18:04 Letter From “Searching” At 40
21:15 Why We Ask Kids About Careers
24:05 School, Structure, And The System
27:15 Kids’ Dreams Change And That’s Okay
30:20 Raising Against-The-Grain Kids
33:05 Pop Culture Rewind: 1997

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Lisa didn’t grow up celebrating Halloween. James was the kid with a pillowcase and a plan. In this episode we unpack why Halloween feels so good, the psychology of “fun fear,” what it’s like to grow up outside the party, and how that past shows up in our parenting now. Plus: a rapid-fire horror movie showdown (Candyman, Scream, Blair Witch, Sixth Sense) and what actually scares us as adults.

Chapters

0:00 Welcome, Halloween Confessions

1:32 Why Halloween Feels So Good

4:17 The Psychology of Fun Fear

9:30 Growing Up Outside the Party

12:45 Parenting, Traditions, and Letting Go

17:45 Was Halloween Freer in the 90s

20:50 Adult Halloween Economy and Costs

25:10 This-or-That: Horror Movie Showdown

31:10 What Actually Scares Us

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If this episode made you laugh, cringe, or question your entire existence as a GenX/Xennial — please hit subscribe and leave a review. It genuinely helps more unhinged humans find their people.

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We unpack the family roles we never asked for and why Gen X kids grew up in what was essentially a live-in social experiment, exploring how birth order impacts everything from our place in the family to our adult relationships.

• Birth order significantly impacts family dynamics, with oldest children "paving the way" and younger siblings often enjoying more relaxed rules
• Age gaps between siblings create entirely different childhood experiences—larger gaps can make siblings feel like they grew up in different families
• Family connections often strengthen in middle age as we realize time with parents is limited
• The golden child versus scapegoat dynamic can persist into adulthood, causing lasting pain even in our 40s
• Parenting styles have evolved from physical punishment to privilege removal and positive reinforcement
• 90s cultural touchpoints like Boyz II Men, Achy Breaky Heart, and Super Nintendo created rare moments of connection between siblings

Whether you're the rule follower or the rebel, we're here to say you're absolutely right to be mad about that thing from 1993. Keep watching, because there's plenty more dysfunction where that came from!

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Thanks for hanging out with us on Brother Sister Whatever, your no-BS guide through the messy middle!
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➡️ Follow @brothersisterwhatever on YouTube for video episodes, Instagram for Reels & rants, and Facebook for community!
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🗓 New episodes every other Thursday.
Bring your feelings. We’ll bring ours.