Bounded Love: Standing Strong with Your Lover

How do you stand beside your partner, when they are going through a rough patch? Can you be supportive without needing to rush in with a fix, or an opinion, or advice? Over time, I’ve learned a number of things about keeping good boundaries even in loving relationships.

1. I cannot fix you.
2. Your pain is not my pain.
3. Your pain (unless you tell me) is not about me.
4. My reaction to your pain and distress is my own.
5. I can contain my own pain and my own distress, and remain present for you.
6. I will stand beside you, loving you, even as you pass through something difficult.
7. You can handle this. I am beside you.

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