Boundaries: The Foundation of Healing after Sexual Betrayal (Season 1: Episode #10)

Boundaries: The Foundation of Healing After Sexual Betrayal Episode Summary

In this episode of Rise: Hope & Healing from Sexual Betrayal, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore why boundaries are essential—not optional—for healing. They clarify common misunderstandings about boundaries, emphasizing that boundaries are not punishments, ultimatums, or attempts to control another person. Instead, they are acts of self-care rooted in values, safety, and personal responsibility.

Drawing from clinical experience, real-life examples, and research-based frameworks, the conversation breaks down how boundaries function as “if–then” statements focused on how you will respond to protect yourself. The episode highlights the difference between healthy boundaries and rule-setting, the role of self-trust and follow-through, and why understanding your why is the key to confidence and consistency.

Listeners will learn how boundaries support emotional safety, reduce resentment, and strengthen the inner core—especially after betrayal has shattered trust. The episode also addresses the fear that boundaries will damage relationships and reframes boundaries as a pathway to clarity, dignity, and, when possible, deeper connection.

Key Takeaways

• Healing rarely occurs without clear, self-honoring boundaries

• Boundaries are about your response, not controlling someone else

• Effective boundaries are rooted in values, needs, and self-awareness

• Boundaries support safety, self-trust, and differentiation

• Letting go of outcomes is essential when setting boundaries

• Practicing boundaries builds confidence and reduces resentment

Resources Mentioned

• Boundaries Course – Creating & Maintaining Healthy Boundaries Available at Boundary Basics

• Rise online Course: HumanIntimacy.com

• Vicki Tidwell Palmer, Boundaries Handbook for Women

• Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend, Boundaries

• Differentiation of Self (Bowen Family Systems Theory)

• Human Intimacy Courses & Educational Resources