Bonus Snack | E82: When Love Becomes Housing - Support, Subsidy, and Exploitation in Modern Relationships

Reality Check My Life | Bonus Snack | E82: When Love Becomes Housing - Support, Subsidy, and Exploitation in Modern Relationships

What happens when love quietly turns into infrastructure?

In this Bonus Snack episode of Reality Check My Life, Gin names a relational pattern many of us have lived inside but rarely had language for — when emotional intimacy, identity, illness, or circumstance slowly replace adult reciprocity, and one partner becomes the unspoken carrier of survival.

Often joked about as “hobosexuality,” this episode moves beyond memes and mockery to explore the deeper ethical, emotional, and nervous-system realities underneath these dynamics — across all generations, not just the young.

Using a clear, compassionate framework — Support vs Subsidy vs Exploitation — Gin offers language without blame, clarity without cruelty, and truth held with tenderness.

This is not an attack.
It’s a naming.

Inside this episode:
• Why support becomes unsustainable when it stops moving toward autonomy
• How subsidy forms quietly — and why good people get stuck there
• The nervous-system cost of being the carrier in a relationship
• Why boundaries feel cruel to caretakers
• How identity, illness, and ideology can complicate consent around resources
• What ethical adulthood looks like inside intimacy — now

If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, confused, or guilty for wanting balance…
If you’ve ever wondered whether love is supposed to cost you your future…
This episode is a lantern — not a verdict.

You’re not wrong for questioning.
You’re not cruel for wanting sustainability.
And you’re not broken for needing language.

Lantern’s on.
Table’s open.
The shadows have snacks.

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