Did you eat? In Black and Brown households, food isn’t just food it’s love, protection, memory, and legacy. When Grandma piles your plate high or mamá asks “¿ya comiste?” for the third time, that’s generations of care speaking. Feeding is a love language passed down through survival, celebration, and community.

But what happens when that same love language gets complicated? When feeding shifts from nurturing to controlling? When partners use food as comfort, obligation, or even manipulation?

In this episode, we unpack the beauty and the boundaries of “feeders” in our culture. We’re talking tradition vs. intention, care vs. control, and how to recognize love that nourishes without being manipulated.

Remember growing up and catching those late-night infomercials? The ones with sad music, flies buzzing, and a voice telling us that for just “a dollar a day” we could save a starving child or maybe even adopt a wild animal from halfway across the world. As Black and Brown kids, those commercials hit differently. They made us feel guilty, confused, and sometimes even ashamed, like we weren’t doing enough even as kids. In this episode, we’re talking about how those messages shaped us and our ideas about poverty, charity, and even how we saw ourselves. We’ll laugh about the wild dramatics, but also dig into the real impact of growing up surrounded by guilt-driven marketing.

Remember begging for the name brand cereal, only to come home with the giant bag version that tasted “almost” the same? Or asking for the cool snacks at school, but instead pulling out the off-brand cookies your parents swore were just as good? In this episode, we laugh our way through the foods we couldn’t eat growing up Black and Brown. From name brand struggles to frustrating moments, we’re talking about the childhood grocery cart drama that shaped our taste buds and maybe even our personalities.