In this episode, Tatum shares a timely message about building spiritual muscle memory—the discipline of training your spirit to respond automatically to God, especially in seasons of pressure, warfare, and transition.

Just as physical muscle memory develops through consistent repetition, spiritual muscle memory develops through daily prayer, studying the Word, obedience, and intentional separation from environments that weaken your spiritual strength.

This episode serves as both an encouragement and a call to action for those who know they are being stretched, tested, and prepared for greater responsibility. Tatum explains why spiritual consistency—not emotional intensity—is what sustains you through seasons of elevation and opposition.

If you have been feeling pressure in multiple areas of your life, this episode will help you understand what is happening, how to respond, and how to strengthen your spiritual posture so you can stand firm in what God has called you to do.

• What spiritual muscle memory is and why it matters
• Why spiritual disciplines must become automatic, not occasional
• How consistent prayer strengthens your spiritual resilience
• The difference between repetition and quality repetition in spiritual growth
• Why studying and understanding scripture deeply increases its effectiveness in your life
• How environments and habits can either strengthen or weaken your spiritual position
• The importance of accountability in maintaining spiritual discipline
• How to proactively prepare for seasons of elevation and opposition

Spiritual Muscle Memory

Training your spirit to respond to God automatically through consistent prayer, scripture study, and obedience.

Quality Repetition

Not just hearing the Word, but studying it, writing it down, understanding it, and applying it so it becomes embedded within you.

Proactive Spiritual Discipline

Building strength before crisis occurs so your response is rooted in truth, not emotion.

Separation and Protection

Removing yourself from environments and habits that weaken your spiritual clarity and authority.

Accountability and Spiritual Covering

Strengthening your spiritual consistency through prayer partnerships and community.

• Ephesians 6:13–17 — The Armor of God
• James 5:16 — “The prayer of the righteous is powerful and effective.”
• Ephesians 6:12 — Spiritual warfare is not against flesh and blood

• Pray daily and consistently
• Study and write down scripture to deepen understanding
• Put on the armor of God intentionally
• Remove yourself from environments that weaken your discipline
• Establish accountability through prayer partnerships or community
• Meditate on the Word so it becomes your automatic response

• What spiritual disciplines have become inconsistent in your life?
• Where is God calling you to strengthen your spiritual foundation?
• What environments, habits, or distractions may be weakening your spiritual clarity?
• What daily practices can you implement to build spiritual muscle memory?

• BibleHub.com
• BibleStudyTools.com
• GotQuestions.org
• A study Bible for deeper context and understanding

In this episode of Blessed and Bossed Up, Tatum reframes commitment from a biblical perspective. Rather than defining commitment as discipline, motivation, or consistency, she defines it as spiritual restraint—the willingness to restrict your freedom of action in order to fully submit to God’s way.

This teaching explores why commitment is a distinguishing mark of believers and how inconsistent restraint can quietly lead us from dependence on the Holy Spirit into self-sufficiency.

• A biblical definition of commitment as restraint
• Why commitment is a marker of spiritual maturity
• How good intentions can still lead to compromise
• The difference between good ideas and God ideas
• Why God cares about how we start, continue, and finish

Tatum examines the lives of King Asa and King Jehoshaphat to show how waning commitment and partial obedience produced long-term consequences.

Both kings were generally faithful but inconsistent in restraint:

• Asa obeyed God early in his reign but later relied on alliances rather than the Lord.
• Jehoshaphat followed God in major decisions but compromised in daily and strategic ones.

Their stories reveal that partial obedience and strategic compromise can open doors we never intended to open.

Commitment to the Lord should be distinguishable. These five competencies serve as markers of true spiritual commitment:

1. A Clear and Clean Heart
2. Commitment begins with the inner condition of the heart. Unaddressed pride, bitterness, anger, and self-reliance hinder obedience.
3. Scriptures: Matthew 5:8; 1 Samuel 16:7
4. Courage
5. Courage is the spiritual strength to obey God despite fear, risk, or opposition. Obedience often requires moving forward without certainty.
6. Scripture: Joshua 1:9
7. Diligence
8. Diligence is steady, faithful obedience over time. Longevity in calling, business, and ministry is built on faithfulness, not motivation.
9. Scripture: Proverbs 21:5
10. Precision
11. Precision means doing exactly what God said—no more and no less. Dependence on God is required to walk out assignments with accuracy.
12. Contentment
13. Contentment is an inner sufficiency rooted in trust in God’s sovereignty, independent of external circumstances.
14. Scriptures: Philippians 4:11–13; 1 Timothy 6:6–8

Research shows that commitment bridges the gap between intention and action. Many people struggle not because they lack desire, but because they lack commitment.

This biblical framework for commitment not only produces consistency in action, but also spiritual fruit, deeper intimacy with God, and alignment with His will.

Commitment is not about productivity alone. It is about pleasing the Father, finishing the assignment, and stewarding the life God entrusted to us.

If this episode blessed you, please leave a five-star review. Thank you for listening to Blessed and Bossed Up.

In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, we continue our book club discussion of The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley, wrapping up Part Three of the book. These final chapters focus on the spiritual markers the Holy Spirit uses to confirm God’s will—and today’s conversation dives into the first two: peace and the conscience.

Tatum unpacks why peace is often the first and clearest indicator that the Holy Spirit is either affirming or resisting a decision. Through a powerful story from Charles Stanley’s own ministry—where waiting on God led to a debt-free miracle—this episode challenges the tendency to panic, self-rely, or rationalize disobedience when God seems silent.

The episode also includes several personal testimonies illustrating how the absence or presence of peace has guided major life decisions, from entrepreneurship and ministry to relationships and family choices. These stories highlight that spiritual maturity is not a prerequisite for the Holy Spirit to lead—He speaks from the very beginning of our walk with God.

In the second half of the episode, the discussion turns to Stanley’s second marker: the conscience. While acknowledging the biblical framework presented in the book, Tatum offers honest reflection and thoughtful critique, questioning whether the conscience should be treated as a distinct marker separate from the Holy Spirit’s work of renewing the mind. This portion of the conversation invites listeners into deeper discernment, encouraging them to study Scripture, pray intentionally, and test what resonates with the Spirit.

The episode closes with practical reflection questions from the book to help listeners evaluate decisions they may be facing—especially when peace seems unclear or external advice conflicts with inner conviction.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen closely, and trust that the Holy Spirit is actively leading—even when His direction doesn’t make logical sense

Today’s episode is a special one—Tatum sits down with Raevyn Hokett, a longtime friend and fan-favorite guest who first entered Tatum’s life as her business coach back in 2014, helping her transition from employee to full-time entrepreneur. Their relationship has grown over the years into genuine friendship (Tatum even officiated Raevyn and her husband Tim’s wedding!), and in this conversation they go deep on what it really means to build a legacy God’s way.

Together, they unpack legacy and longevity in entrepreneurship, how to steward influence and resources, and why “doing business God’s way” often includes wilderness seasons that teach dependence, humility, and true alignment.

Want to watch the interview? This episode is also available on YouTube (link in the show notes).

• Why Raevyn is an OG guest and always a listener favorite
• What legacy looks like when you’re building with eternity in mind
• The difference between being self-made vs. submitted to God
• How success without God can become a “cocktail for danger”
• Learning to trust God in manna seasons—daily provision and dependency
• When obedience doesn’t look like immediate overflow
• The moment God told Raevyn to shut down a lucrative coaching business
• How God uses closed doors as protection (including a major 2020 “dodged bullet”)
• How spiritual gifts (especially prophecy + discernment) protect and guide in business
• Why business models must evolve—and how God leads transitions ahead of time
• Guarding your gates: distraction, comparison, AI “busy work,” and spiritual compromise
• The power of abiding—stillness, hearing God, and resisting hustle culture

Raevyn is currently offering Rich Disciples Academy, specifically the Calling to Cash Flow Starter Kit, designed to help believers turn their God-given calling into sustainable income.

Blessed + Bossed Up listeners get 50% off with code: BLESSED

(Link: https://stan.store/richdisciples/p/the-calling-to-cashflow-starter-kit)

In this episode of Blessed + Bossed Up, the host continues the book club series with The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley, covering Chapters 13 and 14, which focus on the Holy Spirit’s role in guidance, decision-making, sensitivity, and neutrality before God.

The episode opens with an invitation to the Clarity Reset, a free two-week challenge inside The Society, designed to help participants realign their capacity, priorities, and spiritual focus by slowing down rather than adding more.

• Why many people struggle due to lack of clarity—not discipline or work ethic
• How busyness and goal-driven living can dull spiritual sensitivity
• The Holy Spirit as a guide, not a controller
• Four key truths about the Holy Spirit:
• He guides
• He is trustworthy
• He is God’s mouthpiece to believers
• The Holy Spirit speaks
• Real-life examples of Spirit-led guidance in parenting, career decisions, and resisting distractions
• Why God cares about both major and seemingly small decisions
• The importance of recognizing and trusting how the Holy Spirit communicates personally

• Why God often remains silent when believers approach Him with fixed agendas
• The danger of asking God to bless plans already made
• How emotional attachment can distort discernment
• Why worship helps cultivate neutrality and clarity
• How misplaced faith in promises God never made leads to disappointment
• The connection between neutrality, obedience, and peace

Clarity comes from sensitivity, and sensitivity grows when believers approach God with a neutral heart—willing to release their own agendas and fully submit to His will.

• The Spirit-Filled Life by Charles Stanley: https://amzn.to/45Jzcf6
• The Clarity Reset (free two-week challenge inside The Society): thesocietychallenge.com

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and podcast fave Kristen Hopkins Vincent—and yes, we’re talking about the Vincent part today! Kristen returns with powerful updates on her life (she’s a wife and a mom now!) and on the incredible work happening through Black SEL.

We dig into Kristen’s transition from Dangers of the Mind to Black SEL, why culturally-rooted social and emotional learning is essential for Black communities, and what it looks like to build a mission-driven organization with radical obedience to God. Kristen shares moments where obedience didn’t make sense—like moving forward with a major conference during a hurricane—and how God confirmed the vision through provision, research, and undeniable fruit.

We also talk about the very real emotions that come up when you’re following God’s timing: shame, guilt, feeling unseen, and learning how to embrace seasons of being hidden. And Kristen’s testimony around marriage and motherhood is such a needed reminder: it’s not too late, and God is always intentional.

Before we get into it: Kristen and her husband received the Presidential Lifetime Achievement Award—and she forgot to mention it in the conversation because that’s what happens when you’re focused on obedience and doing the Lord’s work.

• What Black SEL is and why it’s necessary
• Kristen’s transition from Dangers of the Mind to launching a nonprofit
• The 5 core competencies of social-emotional learning (and how Black SEL frames them)
• Why SEL must be culturally affirming to truly serve Black students and communities
• Building “God’s way” vs. building in your own might
• The difference between a “me” assignment and a “we” assignment
• Navigating shame, guilt, and the pressure to be seen
• Seasons where God hides you—and why that protection matters
• Kristen’s hurricane conference testimony and how God made the way
• The research that revealed how little SEL scholarship centers Black communities
• Waiting on God for marriage and motherhood—and what it means to pray for alignment with your assignment
• A word for the woman juggling purpose, business, love, and obedience
• “The position of your mind determines the posture of your life”

• Visit: BlackSEL.org
• Donate + learn more about the mission and programming
• Get involved / volunteer (especially if you’re in North Carolina)

Welcome to the first episode of 2026—and the 9-year anniversary year of Blessed + Bossed Up! In this special New Year kickoff, Tatum opens with prayer, gratitude, and a powerful reflection on what God has taught her through nine years of consistent podcasting and nine years of full-time entrepreneurship (11 years as an entrepreneur overall).

This episode is part celebration, part reset, and part practical mentorship: nine lessons to help you build what God called you to build—with skill, strategy, and spiritual sensitivity.

• A New Year prayer + encouragement for anyone coming out of a hard 2025
• A thank-you message to listeners who’ve supported the show over the years
• Why year 10 is a big deal—and what may be coming next (YouTube + format experiments)
• An invitation to join The Society (with a free trial) and what’s being added in 2026
• The core teaching: 9 lessons from 9 years of entrepreneurship and podcasting

Tatum shares that she’s not committing to a full video podcast, but you can expect more video elements in 2026:

• YouTube-exclusive episodes that may also be added to the podcast feed
• Some podcast episodes recorded live
• More experimentation with format as the landscape continues shifting

Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TatumTemia

Tatum invites you to activate a free 2-week trial in The Society, the membership community created for Christian entrepreneurs who want a space where they don’t have to “leave Jesus out” or “leave entrepreneurship out.”

New for 2026: She’s bringing her former coaching program, She Is Uncompromising Executive Leadership Training, into The Society—broken into monthly modules (about 12 total).

• Topics include operations, marketing, business planning, strategic planning, and accounting (modules taught by her CPA)
• The legal module will NOT be included (permission was for the original program only)
• Membership is $19.99/month, and the first module drops end of January

Link to join: blessedandbossedupsociety.com

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