Conflict doesn’t have to mean shouting matches or broken relationships.

This week on Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly dive into a topic that touches every relationship—conflict. They unpack how different Enneagram numbers experience disagreements, why some avoid it while others charge in, and how even small differences in opinion can feel like big battles for certain types.

Kelly shares a practical six-step roadmap for moving from destructive arguments to healthy, constructive conflict—including tips on picking the right time and place (hint: maybe skip the bedroom), why driving or walking might help guys talk, and how simply being heard can sometimes be enough resolution.

Whether you’re passive, aggressive, or somewhere in between, this episode is packed with tools to help you navigate disagreements without losing your voice—or blowing up bridges.

1. Set a time and place for discussion
2. Name the issue (on your own)
3. Explore possible solutions (on your own)
4. Discuss perspectives and solutions together
5. Choose a resolution together
6. Set a time and place to evaluate

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We’ve made it to the end of our Enneagram communication series—and it’s Damon’s turn in the hot seat as we talk all things Type 9!

In this episode, Damon wrestles with “Nine doubt,” shares why he’s skeptical about gentle communication styles, and admits he might be a secret One. Kelly unpacks what truly drives the Peacemaker’s calm exterior, and why the word “sure” doesn’t always mean agreement.

Together, they explore how Nines communicate, how to draw out their hidden opinions, and the lifelong challenge of choosing between peacekeeping and peacemaking. It’s equal parts insight and laughs—and a perfect wrap-up to this series!

• Damon confesses his “Nine doubt” (and wonders if he’s really a One)
• What “sure” actually means when a Nine says it
• The difference between peacemaking and peacekeeping
• Why decisions—even small ones—feel like conflict to Nines
• How Nines can practice healthy conflict and assertiveness
• Journaling, Netflix, and Damon
• Kelly’s tips for drawing out a Nine’s true thoughts and feelings
• The hilarious story of Damon’s fireworks plan
• “What Nines want you to know”—straight from Damon himself

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Double-booked calendars, fast-talking optimism, and more ideas than minutes in the day…welcome to the world of the Enneagram 7!

In this (slightly turbo) episode of Beyond Your Number, Damon and Kelly explore how Type 7s approach communication, why they’re magnets for new experiencesand how to keep up without getting lost in the whirlwind.

• Why “yes” is a 7’s favorite word
• The line between healthy optimism and escaping reality
• How to invite a 7’s input and why it matters
• Practical ways to communicate without overwhelming them
• The secret sauce: saying “Wow!” before “How?”

Whether you’re a 7, love a 7, or just wonder how they stay so upbeat, this episode is packed with laughter and real-life insights to help every personality connect better.

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