Being a Lighthouse vs Lifeboat

In this episode of The Things We Know, Kari and Lisa unpack the difference between being a lighthouse—steady, grounded, and offering light—and being a lifeboat, jumping in to rescue others at their own expense. They explore how many women are praised for being selfless helpers, and how that conditioning can lead to overfunctioning in friendships, caregiving, and relationships. Through honest conversation and coaching wisdom, they share what it looks like to support others without losing yourself, why fixing isn’t the same as helping, and how real connection requires reciprocity and vulnerability.

If you’re ready to stop bailing water and start standing in your light, join Lisa and Kari this October in Chicago, for a weekend designed to help you come home to yourself, no rescuing required. Consider yourself invited to the Brave & Boundless Best Chapter Yet 2025 Fall Retreat at voco Downtown Chicago October 3-5, 2025 (typically a gorgeous time of year in Chi-town). Register now!

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