Wrote a letter to my child and then read it to myself:

I love you. Before anything else, I need you to really hear that. I know you’re in pain. I know you feel misunderstood, frustrated, and worn down by life, and I want you to know that I am not your enemy. I am not against you. I am on your side, even in the moments when I am upset, disappointed, or hurt by your choices. Nothing in this world will ever change the fact that I love you deeply.

But I need to speak to the adult in you, not the hurting or wounded child. The world is not responding to your intentions — it is responding to your attitude, your words, and your behavior. You are strong, intelligent, capable, and full of potential. I see it, and I’ve always seen it. But your pride, your anger, your defensiveness, and your refusal to be coached are destroying the very things you say you want. You cannot keep talking to people with disrespect and expect support. You cannot keep rejecting wisdom and expect life to go smoothly. That isn’t people hating on you — that is cause and effect. Life is responding to the energy and choices you are putting into it.

Right now, what you are experiencing is not a reflection of your talent, your heart, or your potential. It is a reflection of your choices. And I’m saying this because I want to see you win, not struggle. I don’t want to watch you repeat the same cycle or drown in the same pain. I want to see you take your strength and build, not burn.

So I need to ask you something, and I want you to sit with it before you answer: Are you determined to keep doing things your way — even though your way is breaking you down? Or are you finally ready to try a new way, one that leads to stability, peace, and respect? Because no matter how heavy life feels right now, you are not stuck. You have a choice. This moment can be a turning point if you allow it.

If you are truly ready to grow, I will walk with you. I will stand beside you. I will help you, support you, and do everything I can to guide you toward better. But if you choose to keep doing things the way you are doing them now, then I will have to step back. Not because I’m giving up on you, and not because I love you any less, but because I cannot keep trying to save someone who is fighting the very hands trying to hold them up. I refuse to watch you drown in choices you don’t have to keep making.

I love you. I am here. And I will always be here. But I will only help you if you are ready to help yourself — or at the very least, admit that you don’t know how, and you are willing to ask for help and receive it. That honesty alone can change everything, and that is a step I pray you are ready to take.

Real Kings. Real Tables. Real Talk.Shows like The Den of Kings remind us why representation matters. When real kings sit at the table, the energy shifts. There’s authority, accountability, laughter, and healing — all sitting side by side. The conversation around mental wealth (because mental health is mental wealth) was more than a moment; it was ministry.What Kirk Franklin is doing is necessary. Watching men across generations share unfiltered truth about manhood, leadership, and emotional transparency — that’s kingdom work. And for those of us who live by the Blueprint 31 standard, it was a masterclass in what it looks like when kings rise, reflect, and realign.

Shalom ✌︎︎♡⃛

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Slow and Steady Steps

The safest way to keep from trippin’ is to move slow and steady. Pay attention. Don’t run in the dark — whether that’s starting something without research, trusting someone too soon, or ignoring your gut. Preparation is your flashlight. Wisdom is your walking stick. A good circle of trusted people? That’s your walking crew. Run your big ideas by them before you jump all the way out there.

by Sherell Jay | #BeYOUtifulLyfe #Blueprint31 #RandiesLight

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And one of the hardest impediments of all — the one that shakes you to your core — is realizing you don’t have a village.

That you’ve been out here doing life, fighting battles, climbing mountains, and you look around and realize there’s no true community standing beside you.

That’s when it hits you how vital a village is.
Because a healthy village gives wisdom, correction, and protection.
A real village keeps you from staying stuck in arrested development.

Without it, people grow old but not up.
They keep repeating the same broken cycles.

And that’s why I won’t stop talking about it.
Because we’ve got to bring the village back — before it’s too late.

We’ve lost the connection between generations.
We’ve lost the transfer of wisdom that used to happen naturally around kitchen tables, porches, churches, and community spaces.

Now we’ve got young people with no elders to guide them and old people who refuse to grow up or hand down what they’ve learned.

That’s why you see a 25-year-old saying, “I don’t trust nobody,” and a 55-year-old saying, “I just want no-strings-attached.”
Both are hurting. Both are lost.
And both need a village — elders who correct with love and young people humble enough to listen.

Because when the wisdom of the elders is lost, the foolishness of the old becomes the example for the young.
And that’s how dysfunction keeps reproducing itself.

When I talk about the village, I’m talking about a system of accountability, wisdom, and shared growth.
The Blueprint 31.

It’s based on Proverbs 31 — not as a religious checklist, but as a life template.
It teaches the attributes of strength, dignity, discipline, and compassion.
It’s the measure for kings and queens, for elders and mentors.

A P31 man or woman is the blueprint.
They are the resourceful ones. The disciplined ones. The wise ones who lead with example, not ego.

When they sit at the table, things happen.
Healing happens.
Correction happens.
Vision happens.

That’s the village. That’s the original system that worked — because it was built on principles, not popularity.

I wrote an article and this is my attempt in reading it...

As you can hear, I have turned a 3 minute read into a 15 min lesson.

God help me! 😁

The article is on my website, it would be faster to go read it yourself:

www.sherelljaybooks.com

We weren’t just mother and daughter—we were teammates. We worked out together, pushing each other to keep going when one of us wanted to quit. We cooked together, turning the kitchen into our therapy sessions—where we laughed, cried, danced, and made magic in those pots and pans. We spoke every single day. And most days? We didn’t just talk—we saw each other. It wasn’t enough to text or call; we wanted to be in the same space, breathing the same air, sharing the same energy.

The Lesson

The lesson is simple: Do the right thing. Make the right changes. Make good choices. And if you have not in the past, make the changes now. Learn to treat people with care, with dignity, with respect. Appreciate those who’ve been in your corner. Don’t take them for granted.

Because one day, you will need somebody — and the only people standing with you will be the ones you didn’t mistreat along the way. And every once in a while, even the ones you mistreated will show up. But they might not be there in the way you want them to be.

As the old sayings go: “It ain’t no fun when the rabbit’s got the gun.” And “Don’t bite the hand that feeds you… because you just might end up starving.”

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There’s a song that comes to mind sometimes, the one that says: “And I said, hey, what’s going on?” It’s not just a lyric — it’s a question that feels real when the world seems to be spinning a little out of control.

On those days, I feel it too. I want to shout it, to scream it from the top of my lungs: What’s going on?

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