Ever found yourself knee-deep in an argument about chocolate vs. vanilla—or something way more personal, like politics or identity? 🍦🗳️ In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine shine a light on Chapter 22: “Smile and Move On.”

Here’s the real talk:

• 😁 Smile first, react later: Whether it’s a silly debate about ice cream or a deeply held belief, arguing rarely changes minds—especially when emotions or identities are involved. Instead, genuine conversation (not combat) is what leads to real understanding.
• 🧠 Pick your battles: Not every disagreement needs a winner. Sometimes, it’s just about sharing perspectives and moving forward without drama.
• 💬 Curiosity over combat: Connie shares how pausing, smiling, and asking a sincere question turned a tense political moment into a real, respectful conversation—no eye-rolling required!
• 🌈 Wrap it up with kindness: Ending with appreciation keeps relationships strong, even when you see the world differently.

Harry reminds us that most heated debates—whether about football or politics—are more about entertainment or venting than real solutions. The win? Choosing connection over being right, and letting go when the outcome won’t change.

Perfect for anyone who’s ever gotten sucked into a debate that went nowhere (so, all of us!). Tune in for laughs, real-life stories, and your weekly nudge to let go, smile, and move on. 🌞

(Mini-episode, major relief—perfect for your next deep breath!)

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Ever find yourself stewing over little things—like someone being late or leaving the cupboard open (again)? 🙃 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine dig into Chapter 21: “Release Your Pet Peeves”—your gentle nudge to let go of those everyday annoyances that just aren’t worth your peace.

What’s the big idea?

• 🧘‍♂️ Let it go, let it go: Holding onto pet peeves only keeps you mildly irritated and robs you of your own peace of mind.
• 🕵️‍♀️ Assume positive intent: Most of the time, people aren’t out to get you—they’re just living their lives (and sometimes running late).
• 💬 Talk it out, don’t stew: Instead of silently judging, try asking a curious question or having a light conversation about what’s bugging you.

Harry shares his classic peeve (lateness!) and how he’s learned (learning?) to smile and move on, while Connie reminds us that a little empathy and a simple question can turn a pet peeve into a non-issue. The real win? Releasing your peeves is less about letting others off the hook and more about protecting your own roots and living a lighter, happier life.

Perfect for anyone who’s ever muttered, “Why do people do that?!” Tune in for relatable stories, practical tips, and your weekly reminder to choose peace over petty. 🌞

(Mini-episode, maximum relief—perfect for your next deep breath!)

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Episode 29: Gentle Nudge - Assume Positive Intent

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Ever felt like you deserved to stay mad? 😡 In this episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine unpack Chapter 20: “Take the High Road”—a powerful reminder that holding onto anger only salts your own roots.

Key takeaways:

• 🌟 The high road is for YOU: Letting go of petty negativity isn’t about the other person—it’s about freeing yourself.
• ⏳ Work through it: Whether it takes two hours or two weeks, give yourself grace as you move toward letting go.
• 🧠 Don’t “feed the bad wolf”: Gossip and venting might feel good in the moment, but they rarely help in the long run.

Connie shares a relatable story of waking up still mad and realizing she needed to take the high road for her own well-being. Harry offers gentle nudges on how to stop fueling anger and bitterness—and why compassion for yourself is key when it feels hard to let go.

Perfect for anyone who’s ever struggled to move past frustration or resentment! Tune in for practical wisdom, heartfelt stories, and your weekly reminder to rise above the salt. 🌞

(Mini-episode, major inspiration—perfect for your next walk or coffee break!)

Links & Resources

Be the Sun, Not the Salt - book

To explore the book, or for more episodes, information, tips and tools to live a more heliotropic life, visit us at bethesunnotthesalt.com and find us on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and TikTok.