Be the Example of What Right Looks Like: Stoicism for Dads w/ William Spears

What does it really mean to be “the example of what right looks like”—at home, not just at work? In this episode of The Daughtered Podcast, Oscar sits down with William C. Spears, a U.S. Navy submarine warfare officer who writes on leadership, ethics, and military life—and the author of Stoicism as a Warrior Philosophy. Even though William is a father of three boys, his message is deeply relevant for girl dads and boy dads alike: your kids aren’t just listening to what you say—they’re learning from how you manage pressure, handle conflict, and take responsibility in real time. This a packed episode: Why fatherhood is the most important job The leadership-parallel that keeps coming up The difference between controlling emotions vs. suppressing them A practical Stoic framework The hard-but-powerful practice of “negative visualization” (and why it can make you more present) William also shares where Stoicism gets misunderstood online, how he thinks about service and sacrifice as a dad, and why your kids watching you “own your reactions” may be one of the greatest gifts you can give them. Connect with William:Website: WilliamCSpears.com William C. SpearsBook: Stoicism as a Warrior Philosophy Catch up w/ The Daughtered Podcast Oscar on Instagram Few Will Hunt. 10% OFF use GIRLDAD 00:00 Introduction to Fatherhood 01:40 Welcome to the Daughter Podcast 02:11 Meet William Spears 03:08 Balancing Military Life and Fatherhood 04:19 The Journey to Fatherhood 06:33 The Philosophy of Stoicism 13:30 Writing and Stoicism 17:15 Raising Sons vs. Daughters 37:50 The Cosmic Plan of Fatherhood 38:39 Embracing Fatherhood and Stoicism 40:09 Navigating Miscarriages and Unexpected News 41:47 Raising Boys and Understanding Girls 46:19 Teaching Virtues and Stoic Principles 49:35 The Importance of Emotional Responsibility 01:00:01 Negative Visualization and Parenting 01:08:57 Final Thoughts and Reflections Guest Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the guests. They do not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of the host, any organizations, companies, or institutions mentioned, or corporate entities represented by the host. Our aim is to provide a platform for diverse perspectives and open dialogue. While we strive for accuracy and balance, it's important to recognize that opinions may vary. We encourage critical thinking and further exploration of the topics discussed.