In this episode, Steve Kwan is joined by Rosie Miller to explore the concept of the “tryhard hobbyist” in Jiu-Jitsu: someone who trains seriously and with intention, even if they don’t pursue the sport professionally. Rosie, a brown belt out of Atos HQ and founder of The Grappler’s Lab, shares her journey of evolving goals, identity, and self-worth within the sport. Together, they discuss the emotional and mental challenges hobbyists face, including impostor syndrome, burnout, risk management, and the struggle to balance ambition with sustainability. Rosie offers a values-based framework to help practitioners define their goals, align training with life priorities, and find long-term fulfillment in Jiu-Jitsu, regardless of competitive aspirations.

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Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Cognitive Dissonance
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/cognitive-dissonance/
  
  
• Prioritize Longevity
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/prioritize-longevity/
  
  
• Return on Investment
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/return-on-investment/
  
  
• Reframing
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/reframing/
  
  
• Flow
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/flow/
  
  
• Impostor Syndrome
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/impostor-syndrome/
  
  
• Self-Competition
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/self-competition/
  
  
  

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In this week's mini-episode we discuss the Red Queen effect, a hypothesis based on a quote from Alice in Wonderland that is oddly applicable to science and Jiu-Jitsu! It teaches us that sometimes we need to keep moving just to maintain our position. The Red Queen effect helps explain why we don't feel like we're getting better at Jiu-Jitsu when we compare ourselves to our training partners.

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In this episode, Steve Kwan talks with elite competitor Elisabeth Clay about returning to Jiu-Jitsu after major life changes like pregnancy and injury. Clay shares her personal journey of Jiu-Jitsu and pregnancy, staying mentally engaged during time off, and the challenges of regaining physical performance post-layoff. Elisabeth also discusses the importance of staying immersed in the gym culture when not actively training, how community can combat isolation and depression, and navigating the Jiu-Jitsu world as a new mom.

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https://www.instagram.com/elisabethclaybjj


Mental models discussed in this episode:

• Stress and Recovery
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/stress-and-recovery/
  
  
• Reframing
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/reframing/
  
  
• Compatible Intent
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/compatible-intent/
  
  
• Consistency
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/consistency/
  
  
• Analysis Paralysis
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/analysis-paralysis/
  
  
• Normalization
  https://bjjmentalmodels.com/normalization/
  
  
  

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