"Ask Me How It Works" with Deepa Paul

Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time.

This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by Deepa

This conversation is raw and wide ranging and we were so struck by the joy, vulnerability and honesty in this conversation.

In this episode we discuss Deepa’s conservative upbringing in the Phillipines, the move to Amsterdam and how she opened up her relationship, reflections on how she navigates discussing non-monogamy with her 12 year old daughter, the role Craigslist played in her story, powerful reflections on how her polyamorous relationship structure helped her through one of her hardest experiences and so much more.

Deepa’s Links

Website | Substack | Instagram

Evolving Love Links:

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