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In this episode anger expert Alastair Duhs delves into the idea that the real danger in conflict isn't about winning the argument, but rather about losing connection with one's partner. Alastair emphasises that proving a point often comes at a high cost to trust and closeness.

Learn five strategies that encourage understanding and respect during conflicts, including highlighting the importance of listening and maintaining respectful dialogue. By focusing on understanding your partner rather than winning, relationships can grow stronger even through tough conversations.

key Takeaways:

• In arguments, proving you're right can cost much more than you think.
• The real danger in conflict is losing connection with your partner, not just the fight.
• Shifting from winning to understanding can strengthen relationships during tough conversations.
• Recognising your own anger signs is crucial for managing conflicts effectively.
• Listening to understand, not just to respond, can lower tension and improve communication.
• Setting ground rules for disagreements helps maintain respect and keeps conflicts constructive.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

A Time-Out can be a powerful tool for managing anger. In today’s podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs discusses how to use a Time-Out effectively to cool down before anger escalates too far.

Alastair emphasises that it's not about avoiding issues but about taking a moment to self-regulate. This episode highlights the importance of recognising physical and emotional cues that signal it's time for a Time-Out and how to re-connect after cooling down.

By using Time-Outs wisely, listeners can foster calmer, healthier and more respectful relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• Time-Outs aren't about escaping conflict; they're about stepping back to cool down and think.
• Creating a Time-Out plan before conflicts arise is essential for effective communication and trust.
• Recognising the early signs of anger helps in calling a Time-Out before it escalates into something worse.
• During a Time-Out, focus on self-soothing techniques like mindfulness and deep breathing to calm down.
• Re-connecting after a Time-Out should be gentle and aim to repair the relationship, not jump back into conflict.
• Setting a specific time for a Time-Out is crucial so both parties know what to expect and can manage their emotions.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Understanding how your thoughts shape your emotions is key to managing anger and finding happiness. In this episode, anger expert Alastair shares that it's not events themselves that trigger feelings of anger or frustration, but rather the stories people tell themselves about those events.

He also discusses the ETFA model and highlights how this model can apply both to anger and happiness. Learn also about the importance of gratitude and generosity and how these practices can significantly enhance happiness and emotional resilience.

By changing your inner dialogue, listeners can take control of their emotions and improve their overall well-being.

Key Takeaways:

• The way you think about an event can change how you feel about it.
• Practicing gratitude daily can help shift your focus towards positivity and joy.
• Learning the ETFA model can empower you to control your emotional responses effectively.
• Your thoughts are a powerful tool in shaping your experiences of anger and happiness.
• Small acts of kindness and generosity can significantly boost your own happiness levels.
• Shifting your perspective can unlock deeper joy, even during challenging times.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.