For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

What happens when the people you love start to fear your anger? In this deeply personal episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares Paul’s story - a father and partner whose uncontrolled anger nearly cost him everything.

Through honest reflection and powerful insights, Paul reveals how one simple tool helped him break the cycle of anger, communicate with compassion and rebuild trust with the people who matter most.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is rarely random-it's often a buildup of stress, hurt and old emotional habits that go unexamined.

-Recognising physical warning signs like a pounding heart or tight chest can help you pause before you react.

-Awareness is the foundation for change-it allows you to step back and make conscious choices rather than defaulting to old patterns.

-Expressing sadness or hurt with calm words like “that comment hurt” can create connection instead of conflict.

Real change doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a gradual process that starts with one decision and builds through daily effort.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere? Like one small moment flips a switch and suddenly you're shouting or shutting down without knowing why?

In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the truth about anger triggers - what they are, why they matter and how learning to recognise them can put you back in control of your anger, your relationships and your life.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger doesn’t strike randomly. It follows patterns based on personal emotional triggers and learned responses.

-Your body gives you early warning signs of anger, like a racing heart, clenched jaw or rising tension. If you learn to spot them, you can stay ahead of an anger outburst.

-Triggers don’t cause anger. Your thoughts about those triggers do. Shift your thinking and you shift your reaction.

-Tracking your triggers helps you see which situations set you off, and gives you the power to plan and respond more effectively.

-Managing your anger isn't about avoiding tough situations. It's about building the skills to respond with awareness instead of reactivity.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Break The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Many people think they don’t have an anger problem. They’re just “passionate,” “stressed” or “misunderstood.”

In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs uncovers the four most common myths people believe about anger, revealing how these hidden stories keep you stuck in harmful patterns. If you’ve ever felt like anger is just part of who you are, this episode will give you the truth (and the tools) you need to finally break free.

Key Takeaways:

-Denying your anger doesn’t make it disappear. It forces it underground, where it damages your health and relationships.

-Anger isn’t something that just “happens” to you. It’s created by your thoughts about what’s going on around you.

-Blaming others for your anger gives away your power. Recognising that you create your emotions puts you back in control.

-Even lifelong anger can be changed with two core habits: noticing early warning signs and shifting the thoughts that fuel the fire.

-You don’t need years of therapy to see results. Most people can make a real shift in just 21 days of consistent practice.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System