ARFID Is Real: Why So Many Providers Still Miss This Eating Disorder

Most providers still don’t recognize ARFID when it’s right in front of them. In this episode, Dr. Marianne Miller unpacks why Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder remains so misunderstood—and how that misunderstanding harms children and adults who live with it.

Dr. Marianne explains what ARFID really is, how it shows up across neurotypes, and why messages like “just try harder” damage safety, trust, and nervous system regulation. Through a neurodivergent-affirming lens, she explores how bias, pressure, and diet-culture thinking keep ARFID invisible and why it’s time for providers to see the reality of this eating disorder.

Why This Episode Matters

For too long, ARFID has been dismissed as “picky eating.” This episode reframes ARFID as a real, body-based eating disorder rooted in sensory processing, fear, or trauma—not defiance or willpower. Dr. Marianne highlights the emotional and physiological impact of being told to “try harder,” and how that phrase erodes autonomy, increases shame, and dysregulates the body.

When we understand ARFID as a nervous-system and safety-based challenge, our entire approach to care changes. Listening replaces forcing. Collaboration replaces control. Compassion replaces shame.

Key Topics Covered

• What ARFID Really Is: Understanding sensory-based, fear-based, and low-interest eating patterns that have nothing to do with dieting or body image.

• Why Professionals Miss It: How traditional training and diet-culture frameworks erase ARFID from diagnosis and treatment.

• The Harm of “Try Harder” Messages: Exploring what happens when people are shamed or pressured to eat against their nervous system’s limits.

• The Neurodivergent Lens: How autism, ADHD, and other forms of neurodivergence intersect with eating, safety, and sensory regulation.

• The Role of Bias: Why marginalized identities—fat, BIPOC, neurodivergent, or gender-diverse people—are more likely to be misunderstood or dismissed.

• What Support Looks Like: How neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, and autonomy-based care creates safety and possibility.

Who This Episode Is For

• Therapists, dietitians, and physicians who want to understand ARFID beyond stereotypes.

• Parents who feel blamed or overwhelmed by their child’s restricted eating.

• Adults who have lived with food fear or sensory eating struggles and never had language for it.

• Neurodivergent people who want their experiences around food to be seen, validated, and supported.

Content Caution

This episode includes discussion of eating behaviors, sensory distress, and medical dismissal related to ARFID. Please take care of yourself and listen in a way that feels safe for your body and nervous system.

Related Episodes

• ARFID Explained: What It Feels Like, Why It’s Misunderstood, & What Helps on Apple & Spotify.
• Why Sensory-Attuned Care Matters More Than Exposure in ARFID Treatment on Apple & Spotify.
• ARFID, PDA, and Autonomy: Why Pressure Makes Eating Harder on Apple & Spotify.
• Complexities of Treating ARFID: How a Neurodivergent-Affirming, Sensory-Attuned Approach Works on Apple & Spotify.

Learn More and Get Support

If you want to understand ARFID more deeply or build sensory-attuned support skills, check out Dr. Marianne’s self-paced ARFID & Selective Eating Course. This training explores sensory processing, collaborative care, and trauma-informed strategies for clinicians, parents, and community members.

Visit drmariannemiller.com/arfid to learn more.