In this empowering episode, Tiffany and Jeanette sit down with Certified Midlife Coach and Thrive with Intention podcast host, Jody Phifer, to talk about what so many women quietly struggle with — reinvention, identity shifts, boundaries, trauma healing, clutter, money guilt, and the courage to want more at midlife.

Jody shares deeply personal stories, powerful mindset tools, and actionable frameworks that help women break old cycles, release guilt, reclaim their power, and step into the next chapter on purpose.

Whether you're navigating divorce, career shifts, empty nesting, or a quiet knowing that “something needs to change,” this episode will feel like a warm, wise conversation with the midlife mentor you didn’t know you needed.

• What a midlife coach actually does

• How coaching differs from therapy

• Jody’s career evolution from travel blogger to coach

• Google algorithm changes & trusting a career pivot

• Allowing space for clarity and intuition

• Identity loss in midlife: motherhood, marriage, career shifts

• Why reinvention becomes necessary in your 40s and 50s

• How guilt stops women from wanting more

• Shifting limiting beliefs like “I should be grateful” or “It’s too late”

• The myth of being “too old to start over”

• Trauma, childhood patterns & emotional reframing

• Tools to release resentment, including gratitude lists

• Decluttering, money guilt, emotional attachment to items

• Energetic space: why clutter blocks growth

• Boundaries, self-worth, and stopping the habit of playing small

• Creating coaching programs and community spaces for women

  Key Takeaways 1. You’re allowed to want more.

  Gratitude and ambition can coexist. Wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful — it makes you human and evolving.

  2. Reinvention is a normal midlife milestone.

  Marriage, career, friendships, and identity all shift. Reinvention isn’t failure — it’s an upgrade.

  3. Trauma doesn’t define you.

  Reframing past experiences can release emotional charge and create space for growth.

  4. Decluttering is emotional and energetic work.

  Clearing physical space creates emotional space for new relationships, opportunities, and income.

  5. You are not too old — ever.

  Whether it’s going back to school, starting a business, changing careers, or dating again, midlife is still the beginning.

  6. Own your wisdom and stop playing small.

  Your lived experience is a superpower that younger generations don’t have. Connect with Jody Phifer Jody Phifer | Certified Midlife Coach for Women Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivewithintentionofficial Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thrive-with-intention/id1846688617 Website & Blog: https://thrivewithintention.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jody-phifer-thrive-with-intention/ Join the THRIVE Tribe: https://thrive-with-intention.kit.com/421e222c3f

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In this honest and heartfelt episode, Tiffany and Jeanette dive deep into what the holidays really feel like when you’re a single mom, co-parent or newly empty-nester. From navigating custody schedules to battling loneliness, rewriting traditions, handling guilt and embracing new seasons of life, they’re breaking down the real challenges — with zero sugarcoating and lots of compassion.

Whether this is your first holiday without your kids or one of many, this conversation gives you practical tips, mindset shifts and emotional tools to help you create joy, peace and meaningful memories on your own terms.

• The emotional rollercoaster of holiday custody schedules

• Why kids adjust way better than parents think

• Avoiding guilt, comparison and pressure during the season

• The fear of kids “forgetting” old traditions and what actually matters

• How to avoid interrogating kids after switching homes

• Giving your kids permission to enjoy time with the other parent

• Loneliness during the holidays and how to cope in healthier ways

• Rewriting your holiday traditions as a single parent

• Creating a life outside motherhood so kids don’t feel responsible for your happiness

• How flexibility and healthy communication make co-parenting smoother

• Why it’s okay if your holiday looks non-traditional

• Travel, solo rituals, Friendsgiving, volunteering and more creative ideas

• A powerful reframe for empty-nesters during the holiday season

Children adapt well when both homes feel emotionally safe and pressure-free.

If you approach the holiday with peace, acceptance and joy, your kids won’t carry guilt or sadness.

Your home and traditions don’t need to match anyone else’s. Embrace your strengths and style.

Find meaningful rituals, volunteer, host friends, or plan solo traditions that replenish you.

Kids remember moments, jokes, experiences — not the specific gifts or the picture-perfect setup.

Don’t let others feed your resentment or guilt. Protect your peace.

Your kids will create their own lives. Support them, show up with love and avoid pressure.

• Confirm holiday plans early to avoid last-minute tension

• Let kids call you on their schedule, not yours

• Swap guilt with curiosity: “Did you have fun? What was your favorite part?”

• Plan a “date night with yourself”

• Join or host a Friendsgiving or cookie-decorating party

• Consider traveling on years you don’t have the kids

• Volunteer to fill your cup and shift your energy

• Don’t expect the kids to always come home — sometimes you go to them

• Create duplicate celebrations on alternate days

• Tiffany’s ritual of Christmas Eve alone with gift wrapping, movies and peace

• Jeanette sharing how her quiet weeks help her recharge before the chaos weeks

• The funny “inside jokes and accents” tradition Tiffany and her daughter share

• Creative Christmas surprises like scavenger hunts and clues

• The reminder that kids rarely remember gifts — they remember experiences

• Nostalgic reflections on how parents shouldn’t expect kids to maintain old traditions

• Discussions about setting boundaries with family who unintentionally feed negativity Follow us on social: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aholisticdose TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/aholisticdose Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aholisticdose 🌐 Visit our website: https://www.aholisticdose.com Hosted by Tiffany Castillo & Jeanette Soltys 🔔 Subscribe for real talk, budgeting tips, and unfiltered friendship every week.