97. Stop Being Your Own Chaos: Healing Self-Sabotage, Building Better Boundaries & Choosing Peace — with Dr. Crystal Ann England

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What if the chaos in your life isn’t coming at you… it’s coming from you?

In this powerful episode, Hazel sits down with Dr. Crystal Ann England — licensed marriage and family therapist, artist, mom, partner, and forever learner — to get radically honest about self-awareness, self-sabotage, and what it really takes to build a life that feels like yours.

From growing up in a big, chaotic family to becoming a therapist and moving her entire life from Florida to Georgia, Dr. Crystal shares how she stopped blaming circumstances and started admitting the hard truth:

This episode is a mirror for high-achieving, heart-centered women who are tired of overthinking, over-functioning, and over-giving — and are finally ready to choose peace on purpose.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn

• “Boundaries” vs. “Parameters”
  Dr. Crystal’s reframe on boundaries — moving from brick walls to gates you control, so you can protect your peace without hardening your heart.
• What your relationships actually say about your self-love
  Why she only wants women around her who love their husbands, love their kids, and love themselves — and what that reveals about emotional safety.
• Shame, scars, and owning your story
  How to stop letting your past be used against you — and why your scars qualify you to help others, not disqualify you
• Letting go of timelines and pressure
  What Dr. Crystal’s PhD journey taught her about trusting the process when it feels painfully slow.

This Episode Is For You If:

• You’re the strong friend, fixer, or helper who’s quietly exhausted
• You’ve restarted your life (new city, new chapter, new job) and feel a little lost
• You suspect you might be self-sabotaging your peace, relationships, or opportunities
• You’re in a season of isolation and wondering if it’s punishment or protection
• You want healthier friendships, marriage, and motherhood — without losing yourself
• You’re a faith-driven woman on a healing, self-worth, or personal growth journey

Reflection Prompt

Where in my life am I creating my own chaos — and what is one decision I can make this week to choose peace instead?

Affirmations

✨ I am honest about my patterns — and I am allowed to change.
✨ I am worthy of peace, support, and emotionally safe relationships.
✨ I don’t chase chaos anymore. I choose alignment, clarity, and calm.

If this episode checked you and encouraged you, share it with a friend who’s been carrying a lot and quietly craving peace.

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