969 | The Fear of Being Seen (and What to Do About It)

In this episode, Marsha dives deep into the emotional undercurrent that shows up for almost every author: the fear of being seen. The fear of judgment. The pressure to “get it right.” And the sneaky belief that if it’s not perfect, it’s not worthy.

If you’re in the process of writing a solo book, contributing to a collaborative, or leading one yourself, this conversation will hit home. Because perfectionism isn’t about excellence. It’s about protection. And it will silence your voice if you let it.

Highlights

[01:53] You will never be criticized by someone doing more than you

[03:12] If perfectionism is driving the car, fear is in the passenger seat and shame is in the back

[03:57] How editing during the first draft blocks creative flow

[04:11] Perfectionism is protection — and it’s keeping your voice hostage

[05:13] Writing from your conscious mind vs. tapping into the visceral, heart-led story

[06:01] Vulnerability isn’t weakness — it’s the birthplace of real connection

[07:29] Who are you actually afraid will judge you? (Hint: it starts with you.)

[08:27] Vulnerability requires boundaries — you don’t have to share everything

[09:27] Why some authors need to write 16,000 words to find the 3,000 that matter

[11:03] Releasing perfectionism changes the story you tell

[12:05] Shift your identity: from “perfect author” to “brave author”

Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster

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