84: How Attachment Shapes Relationships, Addiction, and Intimacy

Why do we keep choosing relationships that feel familiar—even when they hurt?This week, Luke and Alana dive into how attachment shapes relationships, addiction, and intimacy at the nervous system level. Attachment isn’t about willpower or insight—it’s about survival patterns learned long before we had words.You’ll learn:How attachment patterns form in early childhoodWhy anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment styles repeat in adulthoodHow attachment wounds drive compulsive behaviors and addictionWhy real healing requires nervous system regulation—not just insightWhat it actually takes to move toward secure attachmentChapters00:29 Understanding Attachment Theory02:18 Attachment in Early Relationships05:01 Attachment Styles and Their Impact12:19 Healing and Changing Attachment Styles15:02 Attachment Patterns in Adult Relationships21:51 Nervous System and AttachmentExplore this topic (and so many more!) in our Beyond the Facade men's groups. Register online or contact our office to learn more: [e-mail] | 702.277.9145Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERERegister Now! Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica - Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Connect With Us:Learn more about Luke here. Schedule a complimentary consultation here.Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. Learn more and register for courses at http://chooserecoveryservices.com