82. Boundaries, Burnout, and the Right to Walk Away

Hey Doc,

This one’s different.

In format and in focus.

In this episode, I’m sharing excerpts from a book that reshaped the way I think about boundaries.

It’s called Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship by Adelyn Birch.

Yes, it’s about toxic romantic relationships... but when I read it, it felt like it captured everything I’ve experienced while in medicine.

The way we’ve been trained to tolerate mistreatment, to deny our needs, to believe we can’t leave... It’s the very definition of a dysfunctional relationship.

And most of us are still in it.

You’ll hear some of the most soul-shaking passages from the book and I’ll unpack them through the lens of physician motherhood. Because boundaries aren’t just about saying no. They’re about reclaiming your time, your worth, and your right to want more.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why confrontation isn’t a character flaw, and what it actually signals
• The radical idea that your wants and needs are legitimate (yes, even as a doctor, even as a mom)
• How medicine gaslights physicians into forgetting their power — and how to take it back
• A list of your basic human rights in relationships that will stop you in your tracks

If you’ve ever felt stuck, dismissed, or just deeply tired this conversation is for you.

Not to fix it all.

But to remind you that your truth matters.

And you don’t need permission to honor it.

🎧 Tap play. Then send this to another physician mom who’s been silently questioning everything.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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