72: Super Traits and the Real Reason Your Sex Drive Disappeared with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

Episode Overview Dr. Jordin Wiggins is a naturopathic doctor, author of The Pink Canary, host of The Pleasure Principles podcast, and an intimacy coach for high-achieving women. Her journey into women's sexual health started in grade 10 with debilitating pelvic pain that felt like "somebody was shoving a knife in between my vagina and my rectum." Doctors dismissed her pain as psychological, offering antidepressants because they couldn't see the problem on imaging. It wasn't until naturopathic medical school that she learned about pelvic floor physiotherapy—the answer she'd been searching for. That experience of being dismissed by healthcare, combined with horrible reactions to birth control, shaped her mission: understanding why 50% of women globally suffer from sexual dysfunction and why so many successful women have everything they thought they wanted but feel completely unfulfilled. In this conversation, Jordin introduces super traits—personality strengths like empathy, loyalty, tolerance, and hard work that make you extraordinary in your career and relationships. But when there are no boundaries around these traits, women build their entire relationship around their partner's moods and comfort, carrying all the emotional labor while their own needs shrink smaller and smaller. What happens in the bedroom becomes a mirror of what happens outside the bedroom. What You'll Learn: How being gaslit about pelvic pain shaped Jordin's approach to women's health, why she ran a successful 7-figure women's health clinic that almost swallowed her whole, what super traits are and why conventional advice doesn't work for women who have them, the four hidden patterns that destroy intimacy in relationships, why "just communicate better" doesn't address power dynamics, the difference between desire that's gone versus desire buried under resentment, how to start examining your relationship without making things worse, why accountability requires checking for safety first, what it means to come home to your head, heart, and body, and why sex being "for him" while connection is "for us" keeps women stuck. Resources Mentioned: Super Traits Research: Sandra Brown's original research on super traits as personality strengths Free Resource: Super Traits Quiz — Take the quiz to discover your super traits. Jordin notes the quiz sends your top trait, but she can send all results profiles if you DM her on Instagram, as most women have three or four super traits. Theme Song: River by Bishop Briggs Connect with Dr. Jordin Wiggins: Website: Dr. Jordin Wiggins Instagram: @drjordinwiggins Podcast: The Pleasure Principles Book: The Pink Canary by Dr. Jordin Wiggins Visit blueberrytherapy.ca and subscribe to The Hole Shebang Podcast. Connect with The Hole Shebang on Instagram @blueberrytherapypelvichealth