7. Designing Your Ideal Dating Pool with a Self Assessment

This follow-up episode offers 10 questions of reflection to help you navigate the journey of dating in a more self-aligned and pleasant way. Here, I get really nerdy about my “dating is like your time at a local pool” analogy and use that to highlight not only the benefits of a self-assessment but the purpose of dating altogether. Each of our journeys starts and progresses differently, guided by the experiences and lessons we had at early ages and our experiences ‘with water’ along the way. Who we are, what we want, and what skills we need to acquire are great lessons offered in dating before we try out our relationship skills in a long-term relationship (aka, the ocean). With the help of a self-assessment, we can design our ideal dating pool with healthy boundaries (ahem, lane lines) to keep us moving in the direction we want. More importantly, we get to figure out what kinds of people we want in our dating pool and claim the power to design our dating pool just the way we want! Take the frustration and hopelessness out of dating by spending your time and effort ‘swimming’ with people you align with. Regardless of your place in the journey, you’ll be meeting people you could build meaningful connections with and building the skills necessary to thrive in a long-term relationship down the road. Happy swimming, everyone!