#67 How Do I... Handle Criticism Without Getting Defensive?

Ever feel that sting when someone gives you criticism, even when you know it’s supposed to help? In this “How Do I…” episode of Be the Sun, Not the Salt, Dr. Harry Cohen and Connie Fontaine take on the surprisingly tough (and super common) challenge of handling feedback without letting defensiveness take over.

Here’s what you’ll hear:

• Why even the kindest of us can get prickly when criticism comes our way
• Simple moves that can turn a tough conversation into a personal growth moment
• Real talk about the magic of pausing, breathing, and saying “thank you” (even when it’s hard)
• How to spot the gold in critical feedback, without letting a single comment ruin your whole day
• What to do when feedback feels overwhelming, and how to come back to the conversation when you’re ready
• Why gratitude - genuine, not forced - leaves both sides feeling respected and seen
• Thoughtful ways to ask questions and clarify so you actually get value from what you hear
• Practical reminders that you don’t have to have the perfect reaction in the moment (and that’s okay)

If you’re working on being less reactive and more open, or just want a little encouragement to take feedback in stride, this episode is for you.

(This mini “How Do I…” episode is perfect for anyone who’s ever bristled at feedback, wants to show up as their best self, or just needs a little help finding the lessons in critique.)

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