51. Unsolicited Advice: Why 'Helping' Backfires & What to Say Instead

Have you ever tried to help someone you love, only to realise they felt pushed, managed or misunderstood instead?

In this episode, I'm diving into the real reason our "fix it" habits damage connection and what to do instead. This is personal work, practical work and deeply liberating work.

I share a powerful story about a young man who came to a coaching call out of obligation and what happened when I stopped trying to pull clarity out of him and started giving him autonomy instead.

You'll hear why real change never comes from pressure, how to recognise your own emotional patterns and why supporting someone doesn't mean directing their life.

We also explore the two roles many of us fall into: the fixer and the people pleaser. I show you how to slow everything down, build self-awareness and reset old habits in a way that protects connection instead of destroying it.

If you've been feeling over responsible, overextended or overlooked, this conversation will hit home and help you change the pattern… starting today.

And there's one simple question in this episode that can instantly reset any conversation…listen to find out what.

"Support creates connection. Pressure destroys it." – Jenny Maxwell

You'll hear about:

• Why fixing others lands as control
• Coaching without consent
• The cost of people pleasing
• What creates real autonomy
• How stress blocks clarity
  
• Pacing change in relationships
• Questions that support not pressure
• Resetting boundaries gently
• How to stop being over responsible
• Tools for both fixers and pleasers

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Your Anytime Reset:

https://jennymcoaching.thrivecart.com/youranytimereset/

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Before You Go

This is your reminder that you're not too much, and you're not not enough. You are allowed to take up space, to need support, and to rest. And if that feels hard right now, I'm here. You're not alone in this.

Episode produced by Between Tracks Media Productions - https://www.betweentracks.com/