#50 Riana Milne MA, CCTP, Global Life & Love Coach: Why Smart People Fail in Relationships

This episode with Riana Milne MA, CCTP, Global Life & Love Coach goes straight into the emotional architecture behind love, trauma, and patterns we swear we “grew out of.” She explains how childhood environments silently shape adult relationships and why successful, disciplined, high achieving people often crumble the moment emotional intimacy is required.

Riana breaks down the ten core childhood traumas that affect nearly everyone, why some people repeat toxic patterns without noticing, and how to spot the personality traits that lead to heartbreak. She moves through jealousy, anxious attachment, shutting down, perfectionism, love bombing, boundaries, and the difference between chemistry and compatibility.

Expect to Learn

• Why childhood trauma is universal and why most people minimize it
• How early experiences turn into adult fears, triggers, and patterns
• Why you can be fearless at work but terrified at home
• The hidden signs of narcissists, sociopaths, and love bombers
• Why chemistry pulls you toward the wrong people
• The essential qualities every healthy relationship needs
• How to communicate without shutting down or escalating
• How to protect your partner inside service industry environments
• How to date with clarity instead of chaos

Links:

• Riana's Website
• Lessons in Life and Love podcast

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I talk mostly to people in and around the service industry space. I'm looking to hear from the people I wish I could have talked to when I was coming up in restaurants. Said another way: I am trying to make sense of this wild, beautiful mess of a life, and help others that are feeling similarly confused and/or lost.

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As always, I’m just here taking notes, trying to figure out what it all means.

Cheers