5 Keys To Improve Discipline

When you think or hear about the word discipline what comes up for you? “Oh, I wish I had more of it,” or “I don’t have time for discipline,” or even “did I do something wrong?” The last implying that the word discipline is a form of punishment. Today we are going to discuss our misperceptions about discipline, its importance, and how we can improve our discipline to be more successful in our lives.  Let’s start with the dictionary definitions. 1)  the practice of training people to obey rules using punishment to correct disobedience or 2) a branch of knowledge, typically one studied in higher education. Both of these definitions imply that discipline is a learned behavior. It’s not something we are born with although we may think it is, especially if we grew up in an environment that lacked discipline. But remember that so much of who we are is established in those first years of life. If we were surrounded by people who were undisciplined or only used discipline as a form of punishment, that’s what we learned. Another definition comes at the very beginning of the Yoga Sutras, one of the major texts of yoga psychology and philosophy. In Sanskrit it is, “Atha yogah anushasanam” which means “now yoga is to be understood as a form of discipline.” In yoga, this concept of discipline can be further explained as the ability to govern the subtle processes of one’s personality. In other words, it’s a process to know the subconscious patterns that manifest as our personality and how to be in charge of how they play out in the world. It is not something that is meant to be imposed from the outside. Rather it is developing the ability to see ourselves at a deeper level, to understand where undesirable behaviors come from, and to create a more appropriate response to the world around us that will result in a more harmonious, healthy, and successful life. As my guru has said, “We tend to identify with the weaknesses rather the strengths of our character. This promotes won’t power – I won’t do that, I can’t do that, rather than will power – I will do that. We need to reduce the weak and limiting characteristics of our personality and develop the positive and creative characteristics. Yoga is what will lift you up and guide you.” True discipline must come from within even though it may be influenced by the world around us. So how do we reduce those influences and find the inner strength and will to feel disciplined? Let’s start by assessing where you are according to the Yoga Sutras and how they define the stages of mind. In the Yoga Sutras there are five stages of mind: 1) Dull – mired in ‘darkness’ meaning full of negativity and stuck in the patterns so deeply that there’s no desire to change; 2) Dissipated – some ‘light’ peeks in, meaning the darkness is pretty consuming but there is an awakening to the possibility of some change might be a good thing; 3) Oscillating – action rotates with inaction, and this is where most of us find ourselves – we try to make a change toward a goal and then we slip back into our old patterns – we try something again or something different and then we slip again – we oscillate; 4) One-pointedness – focus without dissipation, this is where we begin to truly develop discipline – we have a goal, we know the self-sabotaging behaviors, we have the energy and will to stick to the plan; 5) Controlled – balanced with discernment – at this point discipline is a natural part of who we are!  If you are listening to this podcast, I’m assuming that you are in the oscillating stage of the mind. You are interested in finding a different way of being in the world. You’re a searcher, and that’s a great attribute! But you may also find that your goals are hard to achieve, that you may think that others must have something that you don’t have? Well, I’m here to tell you that you have everything you need inside of you – now the work begins as to how it can be accessed! Let’s start with 5 keysys to begin the work in developing more discipline in your life! These are 1) set a goal, 2) understand your motivation, 3) identify obstacles, 4) replace old habits, and 5) get support from appropriate people. Set a goal. Remember that self-discipline is the bridge between goals defined and goals accomplished! It’s very important to not just set a goal but to develop and execution plan. This plan needs to be kept simple, broken into small bits that are defined and doable. If you listened to my previous podcast, I talked about the goal I set to “get healthier” and just one component or “bit” of that was to lose weight, another bit was to move more, another bit was to prepare my meals and eat healthy, another bit was to declutter my life to reduce stress. I also set “markers” for success. Celebrate when I lost certain amounts of weight, such as 30 lbs, 50 lbs, 75 lbs, and I’ll soon celebrate 90 lbs! I ...