46. Why We Pull Away (or Cling Closer): Attachment Styles in Real-Life Relationships | Chit-Chat

Feel like you and your partner keep missing each other emotionally? Do you shut down when things get tense or over-explain to get back on the same page? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack how attachment styles shape the way couples communicate, fight, and try to reconnect.

We break down the three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) where they come from, and how they play out in everyday moments (like text message tone, stonewalling, or needing constant reassurance). Plus, we share our own journey of shifting out of old patterns and building a more secure connection over time.

Whether you're married, dating, or just reflecting on your emotional habits, this conversation will help you put language to your patterns and start healing the cycle.

🧠 Topics covered:

• What attachment styles actually are (and where they come from)

• Signs of anxious vs. avoidant vs. secure behaviour

• Real-life examples of these dynamics in marriage

• How to begin healing patterns and move toward secure connection

• A practical “Reality Check Corner” with reflective prompts

🎧 Important links:

Want more on Attachment Styles? Download your free worksheet and conversation starter kit on attachment styles at honeyweneedtochat.com/free-relationship-resources

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