421: Why Yelling, Sticker Charts & Bribery Aren’t Working (And What To Try Instead) with Dr. Doug Bolton

Ever threaten to take away screen time… only to hand the iPad back 10 minutes later just so you can finish your coffee in peace? 🙋‍♀️ Been there, done that, bought the glitter sticker chart — and guess what? Still got meltdowns. If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why isn’t this working?!” When it comes to behavior, emotional outbursts, and your kid’s total refusal to put on shoes, this episode is for you. Clinical psychologist and author Dr. Doug Bolton joins us to break down why sticker charts, yelling, and bribery don’t fix the problem and what to do instead to help kids with emotional regulation and actually build resilience. You’ll learn why your kid’s “misbehavior” is really stressful behavior, how to manage your own adult meltdowns, and how to repair the relationship (without the guilt spiral). Bonus: there's a simple strategy for staying calm when your kid is blowing a whistle at full volume indoors. (Yes, really.) 🎧 Hit play to learn how to help kids with emotional regulation and maybe calm your own nervous system while you’re at it. Resources We Shared: Learn more about Doug Bolton, PhD HERE Grab his book, Untethered: Creating Connected Families, Schools and Communities to Build a Resilient Generation Snapped at your kid and instantly regretted it? Grab our FREE guide—3 Actions To Take After You Say Something You Regret—and reconnect in less than 17 seconds. Want to keep the convo going? Come hang out with us in the FREE No Guilt Mom Podcast Community, real talk, support, and zero mom guilt. Visit No Guilt Mom Follow us on Instagram! Explore our No Guilt Mom Amazon Shop filled with juicy parenting reads and guest favorites! Rate & Review the No Guilt Mom Podcast on Apple here. We’d love to hear your thoughts on the podcast! Listen on Spotify? You can rate us there too! Love the show? Show it some love back by checking out our ah-maz-ing sponsors who help keep it all going, right here!Access the full episode transcript HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices