#41: Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail - And the Energy That Actually Creates Change

Many people struggle with New Year’s resolutions - not because they lack discipline, but because the change is driven by pressure. When goals come from self-criticism or the feeling that something needs fixing, motivation fades and resistance builds. In this episode, you’re invited to explore why New Year’s resolutions fail from an energetic perspective. Instead of pushing harder, this conversation looks at how the energy behind your intention determines whether change lasts or collapses.

You’ll hear why force creates inner backlash, how the pendulum effect keeps repeating old patterns, and why self-love --not willpower - creates sustainable change. When goals come from care rather than control, habits feel more natural, balanced, and easier to maintain over time.

Episode Highlights & Timestamps

0:50 - Why most New Year’s resolutions fail and why this has nothing to do with laziness or discipline

2:35 - How hidden dissatisfaction and self-criticism shape goals without you realizing it

4:38 - The pendulum effect: why forcing change inevitably leads to resistance, burnout, or collapse

5:47 - Why resistance isn’t weakness, but a sign of your body’s intelligence restoring balance

7:39 -Pressure versus self-love: the subtle energetic shift that determines whether change lasts

10:18 -How to sense, through the heart, whether a goal is driven by pressure or genuine care