#38: Success Doesn't Heal Shame: Why the Hustle Kills Emotional Strength

Too many people are numb to life, unable to enjoy themselves and their relationships even if they’ve achieved great things.

The real problem isn’t intelligence, skill, or drive. It’s a failure to process emotions properly because they’ve lost the ability to use their “heart-mind.” Sadly, most of us have been subtly conditioned to not even know we’re approaching this all wrong.

Thankfully, you can learn how to regain clarity of your heart-mind. And once you do, and stick with it, the results are astounding.

In today’s episode, I’ll share three key ideas about your heart-mind–your mental and emotional center–so you can stop feeling frustrated, and start feeling fulfilled.

Listen now!

Show highlights include:

• What emotional maturity really is, and why most people are left in the dark about it. (1:38)
• Emotional intelligence “playbook” so you can know exactly how to plan your mental training. (9:32)
• What “shutdown theory” gets wrong and how it sabotages your joy and vitality. (11:05)
• Eye-opening reasons you pick silly fights with your loved ones. (14:38)
• The “Bad Stoicism” that keeps high-performing leaders from actually enjoying their accomplishments. (16:11)
• Scientific reasons why people who meditate make better decisions. (23:00)
• How to “rewire” your emotional circuits so you can stay calm and stop getting triggered. (23:16)
• Hidden message your heart rate is trying to tell you. How to make sure you get the message most people miss. (24:08)

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Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

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