38. Stop Forcing Change and Let It Happen

In Episode 38 of The Reset, Shaun takes a different, more raw approach—recording from his kitchen while preparing dinner—and shares a powerful realization about change:

What if the change you’re chasing doesn’t come from forcing it… but from allowing it?

So many of us approach growth with intensity.

We try to force new habits.
Force discipline.
Force results.

Whether it’s fitness, business, or personal development, we often believe that more pressure equals more progress.

But Shaun reflects on his own journey and recognizes a pattern:

The harder he forced change, the less sustainable it became.

This showed up clearly during his bodybuilding experience.

While he achieved incredible physical results through discipline and structure, it came at a cost. The process wasn’t enjoyable, and once it ended, the results quickly reversed.

Not because he lacked discipline—but because the approach wasn’t aligned or sustainable.

This led to a deeper realization.

You can control your inputs—but not your outcomes.

You can choose your actions:

How you train
How you eat
How you show up each day

But the results? They unfold over time.

And when you become overly attached to a specific outcome, you often lose enjoyment in the process—and eventually, consistency as well.

Shaun also opens up about the emotional side of change.

The cycles of:

Shame
Guilt
Self-criticism

Using those emotions as motivation can work in the short term—but over time, they create patterns that lead to burnout, inconsistency, and even periods of low mood or disconnection.

For Shaun, one of the biggest shifts has been learning to interrupt that cycle.

Instead of punishing himself for falling short, he’s begun practicing something very different:

Celebrating small progress.
Letting go of perfection.
Allowing change to unfold naturally.

This doesn’t mean doing nothing.

It means taking action without being emotionally attached to needing immediate results.

It means enjoying the process rather than constantly judging it.

It means being okay with imperfection.

Even this episode reflects that idea—recorded in real time, unpolished, and imperfect.

Because real change doesn’t happen in perfectly controlled environments.

It happens in the middle of everyday life.

This episode is an invitation to shift your perspective:

What if the change you’re chasing is already trying to find you…
But your resistance, pressure, and expectations are getting in the way?

What would happen if you stopped forcing it—and started allowing it?

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder that growth doesn’t have to feel like a constant battle.