340 | "I Hate This and I Hate You": Trust the Process When Kids Push Back in Play Therapy

In this episode, I respond to a powerful and relatable question from Liba in Pennsylvania about working with a highly anxious, intensely resistant 8-year-old diagnosed with ADHD. Liba shares details about his anger, avoidance, control-seeking behavior, and outright rejection of the play therapy process. I walk through what’s really happening beneath these behaviors and offer reassurance that this is exactly the kind of child CCPT is meant to serve.

I unpack the clinical significance of his resistance, discuss why control is so central to his anxiety, and affirm that our role as CCPT therapists is to remain present, reflective, and adherent—even when the child is actively pushing us away. I also touch on the importance of not conceding to avoidance strategies, why CCPT is still the best fit, and how trusting the process—especially with a child like this—is critical for deep, meaningful change.

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Common References:
Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley.
VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press.
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948
Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.