31 | The Real Reason You Over-Explain and How to Heal It: A Hypnocoaching Session with Nicki

In this week’s hypnocoaching session, you’ll meet Nicki, a kind, self-aware woman who has spent most of her life trying to be understood.

She doesn’t just explain things; she overexplains them. In texts. In conversations. In moments of conflict.

As we go deeper into the session, we discover where this pattern began: a childhood moment when love felt conditional and peace depended on keeping others calm. The part of her that learned to justify everything wasn’t wrong. It was protecting her from being rejected, blamed, or left alone.

But what once kept her safe is now keeping her small, and in this session, that part finally gets to rest.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• The real reason we overexplain and what we’re actually trying to protect
• How childhood conditioning trains your nervous system to equate safety with control
• Why some parts of you can’t relax, even when life finally feels calm
• What it means to give that part a new role rooted in reflection, not justification
• How to integrate your younger self so you feel whole, grounded, and free

Resources and Links

• Want to work together 1:1? Click here to book your Connection Call
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Your Next Steps

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And if you know someone who can’t stop explaining themselves, even when they don’t owe anyone an explanation, share this episode with them.

Because sometimes overexplaining isn’t overthinking. It’s overprotecting. A child’s way of saying, “If I can make sense to them, maybe I’ll be safe.”

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