#3: Ryan Holley — Attachment Styles in Relationships, Boundaries vs. Ultimatums, and Reprogramming the Subconscious for Emotional Healing

The Role of Attachment Styles in RelationshipsGuest: Ryan Holley | Host: Brian Comstock🎙️ The Brian Comstock PodcastSummary:In this insightful episode, Brian Comstock sits down with Ryan Holley—a U.S. Air Force veteran and relationship coach—to explore the deep emotional dynamics of relationships. They unpack attachment styles, boundaries, self-awareness, emotional healing, and the path to lasting personal growth.Ryan shares his journey from leading large teams in the military to helping others navigate pain, confusion, and self-doubt in their relationships. Together, they explore how childhood experiences shape adult attachment patterns and how recognizing these patterns can break cycles of dysfunction.If you’re on a journey of healing or seeking clarity in your relationships, this episode is packed with practical tools and powerful insights.Topics Covered:Understanding attachment styles and their impactThe importance of self-awareness and accountabilitySetting and maintaining healthy boundariesOvercoming fear and people-pleasing patternsReprogramming the subconscious for emotional growthSelf-compassion and healing shameHow to stop earning love and start embodying itTakeaways:Knowing your attachment style is key to building healthy connectionsBoundaries protect your energy, not punish othersLove is not something you earn—it’s something you allowSelf-worth and healing go hand-in-handSupportive coaches and therapists challenge you, not coddle youSoundbites:🗣 “You have to own your own stuff.”🗣 “Boundaries are about your limits.”🗣 “Love should not have to be earned.”Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics02:52 The Journey to Understanding Relationships05:55 The Role of Attachment Styles11:49 Navigating Self-Awareness and Accountability15:59 Establishing Healthy Boundaries19:43 Overcoming Fear in Relationships26:23 Reprogramming the Subconscious for Emotional Growth27:53 Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Impact29:09 Identifying and Attracting Different Attachment Styles34:57 Boundaries vs. Ultimatums: A Key Distinction36:59 Navigating the Transition to Healthy Relationships44:35 Deep Self-Reflection for Lasting Change48:46 Finding the Right Support: Coaches and Therapists52:24 The Importance of Self-Worth and Healing ShameGuest Info:Ryan Holley is a relationship coach, veteran, and father of four. He helps clients stop second-guessing themselves and start trusting their own clarity.🌐 Website: coachryanllc.com📲 Follow Ryan on TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook👋 Resources for Your Healing Journey:👉 Get Your FREE Personalized Healing Roadmap & Join My Newsletterhttps://briancomstock.co/healing-roadmap-optin📺 400+ Videos on Narcissistic Abuse & Healinghttps://www.instagram.com/brian.comstock🔹 1. Still healing?Pain to Peace 1:1 Coaching✓ Weekly calls with a trauma-informed guide✓ Safe container to process and grow👉 Apply now: https://briancomstock.co/coaching-application🔹 2. Ready to turn pain into purpose?Pain to Purpose Membership + Creator Coaching✓ Monthly group coaching✓ Self-paced healing + business strategy modules✓ Private community of mission-driven survivors👉 Join: DM me on IG @brian.comstock or email me📝 Read My Blog:http://www.briancomstock.com📬 Contact Me:https://briancomstock.com/contact/Presented by Brian Comstock, this podcast offers insight-packed episodes to help you heal from narcissistic abuse, break free from toxic cycles, and reclaim your power. My mission is simple: to help you transform your pain into clarity, confidence, and purpose.Keywords:relationships, attachment styles, self-awareness, boundaries, emotional health, personal growth, accountability, healing, coaching, mental healthHashtags:#Relationships #AttachmentStyles #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealth #TheBrianComstockPodcast