#28 Lower the Stakes to Break the Shame Spiral

Most people lump m*sturbation and p*rn into one bucket, then stack on rules until the bowstring snaps—and the binge follows. In this episode, Richard Young takes a grace-first look at desire, self-control, and what God actually calls sin. Spoiler: the real issue is objectifying people for selfish ends—not a moment of physical release.

Drawing from a conversation with caring parents, Richard unpacks how shame around sexuality can prime the cycle of escape and numbing—and how lowering the stakes helps many step out of compulsion. You’ll learn:

• How to separate p*rn-driven fantasy from simple physiology
• Why “more rules” often intensify rebounds (and what to do instead)
• A practical, shame-free way to coach yourself—or your kids—toward healthy sexuality
• How stress and anxiety fuel the escape loop, plus a prayerful path to peace

If you’re tired of white-knuckling and ready for clear-conscience living, this conversation will help you trade shame for wisdom and walk in real freedom.

P.S. Keep Justin and Emily in your prayers as they welcome baby #2!