275: Two Types of Intimacy You've Never Heard About

Most couples think intimacy is about communication or affection, but there are actually two different types of intimacy operating beneath the surface of every marriage. Chances are, you've only been using one of them… and it's the one that keeps you stuck.

In this episode, we break down the difference between other-validated intimacy and self-validated intimacy, and why shifting what type you develop can change everything about how you talk, connect, and experience sex in your marriage.

In this episode, we cover:

• What the two types of intimacy actually are

• Why one leads to emotional gridlock

• Why the other opens the door to deeper connection

• How validation (or lack of it) affects both emotional and sexual intimacy

• Real-life examples from couples who transformed their connection

• The spiritual root of self-validated intimacy

• How your emotional reactivity is shaping your marriage

• Five practical ways to build self-validated intimacy today

If you've ever wanted deeper conversation, more ease, or a more meaningful sexual connection, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air.

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