253. Raising Good Men: A Conversation with Tim Wright

In this powerful episode, Melissa sits down with Tim Wright — former Lutheran pastor of 41 years, author, and passionate advocate for helping boys grow into strong, compassionate men of character.

Melissa begins the conversation with a question many parents of boys are quietly asking:
What does it even mean to be a man in today's world?

With cultural messages constantly shifting — and often equating masculinity with toxicity — Tim offers a refreshing, grounded perspective. He shares why boys need intentional guidance, not stereotypes. Why strength and compassion are not opposites. And why raising good men starts with developing character — not just behavior.

Tim explains how throughout history, many cultures practiced rites of passage to help boys transition into manhood. Today, we often lack those intentional moments. Without guidance, boys will still seek definition — but they may look in the wrong places. Tim shares how simple, intentional experiences can help boys build identity rooted in love, responsibility, empathy, and conviction.

He also shares a deeply moving story about the rite of passage ceremony he created for his son when he became a father — gathering strong male figures, reading letters of affirmation, and symbolizing the moment through intentional marking. It's a beautiful picture of what mentorship and generational blessing can look like.

The conversation then turns to Tim's middle-grade fantasy series, The Adventures of Toby Baxter. Through adventure, humor, and imagination, Tim weaves character lessons about courage, wisdom, love, grit, and truth into engaging stories designed especially to help boys grow.

Melissa and Tim discuss:

• Why boys need strong male role models beyond just dad
• The power of language and affirmation ("I love you. I'm proud of you.")
• How parents can be intentional even if a father is absent
• Why character must come before labels
• And how to take back influence in an age of screens and algorithms

Tim closes with a simple but powerful reminder:

Look your child in the eyes every day and say, "I love you, and I'm proud of you."

Because when a child knows they are deeply loved, it becomes a protective force against so much of what culture throws at them.

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Links For This Episode:

• : Tim Wright Books -- The Adventures of Toby Baxter

Episode Minute By Minute:

• 01:00 – Tim's background: pastor, author, and grandfather
• 03:30 – What does it mean to be a man today?
• 05:00 – Masculinity vs. "toxic masculinity"
• 06:30 – Why boys need intentional training
• 08:00 – The loss of rites of passage in modern culture
• 10:00 – Character as the foundation of manhood
• 12:30 – What rites of passage can look like today
• 14:30 – The ceremony Tim created for his son
• 16:30 – Why boys need multiple male role models
• 18:00 – Supporting boys when a father isn't present
• 20:00 – The Adventures of Toby Baxter series
• 22:00 – Using story to teach courage, wisdom, and grit
• 24:00 – Why boys need to rediscover reading
• 26:00 – Navigating technology and modern parenting
• 28:00 – Tim's final parenting advice: affirmation and love
• 30:00 – Where to find Tim's books and resources