#241: How to Date from Self-Worth

Modern dating can be tough. Between apps, ghosting, and the uncertainty that often comes with meeting strangers outside our social circles, the whole process can be seriously activating — and all the more so for those with anxious attachment patterns.

In this episode, I share three key mindset shifts to help you approach dating from a place of self-worth rather than scarcity, pessimism, or the need to be chosen.

When you date from a grounded place, the focus shifts from seeking approval to assessing alignment—and that change alone can transform your experience of dating.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why modern dating can be particularly challenging for people with anxious attachment
• The importance of getting clear on your non-negotiables and deal breakers before you start dating
• Why tolerating situationships and ambiguous connections keeps you stuck
• The difference between scanning for red flags and looking for green flags
• How fear-based dating advice can increase anxiety and erode self-trust
• Why cultivating your own vitality and wellbeing changes the energy you bring to dating
• How shifting from “please choose me” to “are we aligned?” creates healthier connections
• Why it’s sometimes wise to take a break from dating apps if the process feels draining

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