24. Take What You Need: Soft Words, Strong Boundaries

What if tending to your own needs is one of the holiest things you can do?

In this deeply grounding episode of Hard & Holy, Cass sits down with Aundi Kolber: bestselling author, licensed professional counselor, and trauma-informed therapist—to talk about her newest release, Take What You Need: Soft Words for Hard Days.

Together they unpack how trauma can disconnect us from our God-given needs, why an embodied faith doesn't bypass our emotions, and how compassionate boundaries create room for real connection.

Listen in to explore:

• How unaddressed trauma scrambles our internal "need detectors" and what healing can look like.
• Practical ways to practice self-compassion that overflow into loving others well.
• The surprising link between boundaries and belonging.
• Why healing is both present-tense care and gentle attention to the past.
• Aundi's go-to "soft words" for the days that feel anything but soft.

If you've ever felt guilty for having needs—or unsure how to name them—this conversation will feel like a warm, steady hand on your shoulder. Grab a cozy drink, press play, and let's take what we need… together.

Connect with Aundi:

Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aundikolber?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

Visit her website: https://aundikolber.com/

Order Take What You Need : https://aundikolber.com/take-what-you-need/