234. Knowing When a Structure has Clicked in Place featuring Stephanie Weaver

Stephanie Weaver MPH joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about family estrangement, gaslighting, her recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse, chronic illness, not wanting a book to be about revenge, reframing a memoir around a larger cultural moment to resonate with more people, stepping away from our memoir projects to take care of ourselves, avoiding traumatizing the reader, knowing when a structure has clicked in place, discovering the complex heart of your story, the querying process, when you don’t have a big platform but have lots of connections, and her new memoir Bitter, Sweet: How to Heal Yourself When Your Family is Broken. Stephanie Weaver on The Body Myth: Loving Our Bodies When They’ve Been a Source of Pain https://ronitplank.com/2022/06/14/the-body-myth-loving-our-bodies-when-theyve-been-a-source-of-pain-ft-stephanie-weaver/ Ronit’s Fall Workshop - Writing Dynamic Memoir: From Lived Experience to Gripping Story https://www.lmcmurtrylitcenter.org/workshops/writing-dynamic-memoir-from-lived-experience-to-gripping-story Also in this episode: -Beta readers -removing tags in dialogue -how our brains record memories Books mentioned in this episode: -Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls -Educated by Tara Westover -The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis -When Longing Becomes Your Lover by Amanda J. McCracken -The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk -Wild by Cheryl Strayed -This Boy’s Life by Tobias Wolff -Homebaked by Alia Volz -Madman in the Woods by Jamie Gehring Stephanie Weaver MPH is an experienced curator and storytelling strategist. With a rich career spanning museum storytelling, public health, and speaker coaching, she has worked at a range of iconic institutions – from The San Diego Zoo to The White House. A world traveler who embarked on a solo journey through Southeast Asia at 28, Weaver has curated TEDxSanDiego, coached hundreds of speakers, and authored five books that illuminate the power of personal narrative. A survivor and advocate, she's transformed personal battles with childhood sexual abuse and chronic illness into a mission of helping others heal. After living in Cleveland, Connecticut, and Chicago, Stephanie has been a happy Southern Californian for thirty years, where she and her husband wait hand and foot on their golden retriever. Sign up for her free newsletter Fun to Be Around at stephanieweaver.com Connect with Stephanie Weaver, MPH on: Website: https://stephanieweaver.com Substack https://sweavermph.substack.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sweavermph/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sweavermph Threads https://www.threads.com/@sweavermph Purchase book: Bitter, Sweet: How to Heal Yourself When Your Family Is Broken (Amazon) https://www.amazon.com/Bitter-Sweet-Yourself-Family-Broken/dp/1960456377/ Bitter, Sweet (Bookshop) https://bookshop.org/p/books/bitter-sweet-how-to-heal-yourself-when-your-family-is-broken-stephanie-weaver/ff5eb4fcdc02b083 Bitter, Sweet (Barnes and Noble) https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bitter-sweet-stephanie-weaver/1148895292?ean=9781960456373 Professional beta reads & TED-talk speaker coaching https://experienceology.com/writing-coach/ – Ronit’s writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer’s Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts’ 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories. She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit’s Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social