23. Trauma Bond or True Love? How to Tell the Difference

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Trauma Bond or True Love? How to Tell the Difference

Ever mistaken chaos for chemistry? You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, we dive deep into attachment styles, trauma bonds, and why so many of us confuse emotional intensity with real love. I break down how anxious and avoidant dynamics create addictive highs and lows, why your brain literally craves the person who hurts you, and what secure love actually feels like — calm, consistent, and safe.

Whether you’re healing from a toxic connection or learning to spot the red flags earlier, this episode will help you stop outsourcing your peace and start attracting partners who regulate your nervous system instead of wrecking it.

In this episode, we talk about:
✨ The difference between trauma bonding and genuine connection
✨ How anxious and avoidant attachment styles feed off each other
✨ Why “spark” isn’t always chemistry — it’s often dysregulation
✨ What secure love feels like (and why it might feel “boring” at first)
✨ How to stop confusing chaos for passion and start choosing peace

“You’re not missing passion — you’re detoxing from instability.”

Mentioned in this episode:

• The book Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
• Healing your attachment style through self-regulation and secure partners
• How nervous system regulation changes who you’re attracted to
• The real “glow up” — when you stop craving chaos and start craving peace

Listen if you’re ready to:
💫 Break cycles of anxious or avoidant relationships
🌿 Learn what secure, healthy love actually feels like
❤️ Reclaim your peace, your power, and your glow

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