23 - Secrets to Cold Approach: How to Leverage Scarcity and Get Her Number

Swiping promises abundance; real life delivers clarity. We’re talking about how divorced dads can ditch the dependency on apps and create warm, natural conversations anywhere—grocery lines, coffee shops, hardware stores—that actually lead to dates. The secret isn’t a magic line. It’s state, presence, and a clear invitation delivered with respect.

We start by breaking down why in-person beats online: you and she both get a true read on energy, voice, humor, and ease within seconds. Then we flip the frame from “cold approach” to “warm approach.” Instead of trying to get a number, you create comfort, assume light familiarity, and offer an invitation that feels safe and specific—“Coffee Saturday?” lands better than “Can I get your number?” We also dig into timing and context: when to approach, how to acknowledge a friend group, and why “respect + playfulness + clarity” is the winning combo.

The engine behind it all is state. Scripts fall apart if your body is tense and your mind is chasing outcomes. We share a simple “winner” frame you can step into on demand, so your voice slows, your smile relaxes, and your presence does the heavy lifting. Add one weekly practice—one compliment, zero expectations—to build warmth on contact and rewire your identity as a man who takes his shot. Along the way, we touch on modeling confident behavior for your kids, setting boundaries to lower stress, and building momentum without forcing results.

If you’re ready to turn chance moments into real connections, this is your playbook: warmth first, invitation second, outcomes as a byproduct. Subscribe, share with a dad who needs it, and tell us: where will you take your next shot?