23. Are You Over-Mothering? Balance Feminine Energy so Your Teen Boy Can Lead

Raising teenage boys can pull us toward fixing, micromanaging, and doing it all. But softness isn’t weakness—it’s the doorway that calls our sons higher. In this heart-forward conversation, I unpack how to stay grounded in your feminine (nurturing, receptive, wise) while giving your son room to practice his masculine (action, responsibility, protection). I share a personal moment with my 16-year-old that shows what happens when we step back with trust—our boys step up.

What you’ll learn

• The age shift: signs your boy is reaching for independence (11–13+)

• The posture shift: from controlling to inviting, guiding, and receiving

• Simple “step-up” moments: carry the groceries, lock the doors, take initiative

• How to balance motherly wisdom with trust in his decisions

• Why staying soft actually helps him grow strong and honorable

Reflect & journal

• Where am I fixing instead of holding space?

• One small way I can invite him to rise this week

• A place I’m ready to release control and show trust