226. From Conflict to Connection: Growing Past our Same Old Fights with Andy Chaleff

Ever feel like you and the people you love are having the same fight on repeat? You’re not alone—our guest Andy Chaleff has spent 20 years helping people break free from those cycles in their relationships. In his new book, The Connection Playbook, and through his playful new game Cool It!, Andy shows us how conflict can actually become a bridge to deeper trust and connection.

Chapters

00:00 – Intro & Welcome

04:05 – Tools for conflict & building a “toolbox”

13:01 – How to stop having the same fight

26:00 – Triggers, expectations, and self-reflection

40:50 – The art of loving arguments & fighting fair

42:38 – Break

44:56 – The art of loving arguments & fighting fair (cont.)

58:14 – Choosing love over fear

1:19:15 – Living in wonder & final takeaways