2 Therapists Alert- 4 Relationship Killers: How to STOP the Cycle & Actually Solve Your Fights

Hosts: Courtney CC Calkins, MA, Licensed Marriage Family Therapist CA # 42004, TN # [e-mail] and Jeanine Neher, MA, LPCC Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor # 17813 [e-mail]: The information provided in this video is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard in this video. The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the speakers and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of any other agency, organization, employer, or company. Reliance on any information provided in this video is solely at your own risk. If you are in emotional distress or experiencing a mental health crisis, please call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7.SummaryThis conversation delves into the complexities of navigating conflict in relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication styles, understanding the nature of conflicts, and the impact of expectations. The discussion highlights the 'Four Horsemen' of relationship conflict and offers strategies for healthy communication, personal responsibility, and self-soothing techniques. Ultimately, it underscores the journey towards acceptance and the power of understanding oneself and one's partner in fostering a harmonious relationship.#conflictresolution #healthycommunication #couplestherapy #emotionalintelligence #marriageadvice #FightFair Chapters00:00 Understanding Conflict in Relationships03:31 Communication Skills and Tools06:45 Solvable vs. Perpetual Conflicts09:37 Personality Differences and Their Impact12:31 Navigating Social Situations as Opposites15:21 Emotional Awareness and Personal Responsibility18:43 High Conflict and Co-Parenting Dynamics25:47 The Power of Responsibility in Healing27:42 Finding Freedom Through Personal Power29:34 Expectations vs. Reality in Relationships33:20 Understanding the Four Horsemen of Relationships40:23 Navigating Conflict: Stonewalling and Contempt48:31 Looking Ahead: Skills for Healthy CommunicationGottman describes The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/ TakeawaysConflict is inevitable in long-term relationships.Realizing when not to fight is crucial for harmony.The first three minutes of an argument set the tone.Listening stops when yelling starts.It's important to quit taking things personally.Understanding personality differences can help resolve conflicts.The Four Horsemen are key indicators of relationship issues.Indifference can be more damaging than anger in relationships.Taking responsibility empowers individuals in conflicts.Acceptance is essential for a happy relationship.