192. Slash Fic, Safety, & Self-Trust: M/M Fan Fiction For Healing & Sexual Empowerment

If you've ever felt weird—or secretly wonderful—about your love for M/M fan fiction, this episode is for you.

Kayla dives deep into the emotional, psychological, and spiritual medicine of slash fic, especially for women who are high-achieving, emotionally burnt out, or healing from food/body image struggles or sexual trauma. Through the lens of beloved pairings like Dean/Castiel, Blay/Quinn, Kirk/Spock (and of course, Rex/Haven), she reveals why this genre isn’t just hot—it’s healing.

You’ll explore:

• The four inner conflicts that slash fic helps resolve
• Why M/M dynamics bypass internalized misogyny and body comparison
• How creating your own pairings (like Rex and Haven) can help you integrate self-trust, sensuality, and nervous system safety
• What it really means to balance fire and water, dopamine and serotonin, passion and peace
• And why so many brilliant women are secretly (or not-so-secretly) obsessed with emotionally repressed men kissing in fanfiction

Stay tuned through the end for a special bonus scene featuring Rex and Haven—one that might just change how you see desire, safety, and integration forever.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
• The Molecule of More by Daniel Lieberman
• Do Hard Things / Win the Inner Game by Steve Magness
• Podcast Episode 073: Create Passion & Safety Together
• Podcast Episode 067: How To Balance Your Slay & Thrive Energy For Maximum Energy, Happiness, & Success
• Podcast Episode 186: What If You're Already Worthy?
• Podcast Episode 188: Animus Wrangling 101
• Podcast Episode 190: The Drama Triangle of Binge Eating
• Kayla’s Free Gift & Waitlist
• Book Your Call to Adventure